MSN Hotmail - Message: "Whining Ways
Whining is one of the childhood behaviors most disliked by adults -- it's plain annoying, grating and unproductive. Meanwhile, it's also a behavior that many adults still engage in -- a lot. In fact, according to Lauren Zander, Principal of The Handel Group, a consultancy that helps corporations to flourish by helping individuals to reach their true potetntial within the organization and Meredith Haberfeld, CEO of Handel Group subsidiary Personal-Evolution www.personal-evolution.com, most adults have carefully disguised their whining by removing the irritating intonation from their voice or simply by doing most of their whining in their own heads, to a spouse or to a best friend. But that doesn't make whining any less toxic.
No matter the form, whining is highly unproductive for the simple reason that it takes the place of proactively taking action to change things. As such, it becomes a major stumbling block standing in the way of healthier habits, a richer and more fulfilling life and better, more loving relationships. Once you're aware of how prevalent whining is, you'll understand why I wanted to share Lauren and Meredith's philosophy on how to rid ourselves and our world of whining.
THE WHYS OF WHINING
People whine when they feel powerless -- or at least when they think they're powerless. Children form the habit of whining because they quickly learn it can get them something they want that they can't (or choose not to) get for themselves. Say a chil"
Thursday, June 29, 2006
Monday, April 24, 2006
Foreverhealthy - Articles
Foreverhealthy - Articles: "THE POWER OF �LIVING� WATER
by Wayne Gendel May 2003
LONGEVITY Is Associated with Drinking Mineralized Oxygen Rich Natural Pure �Living� Water!
But!
Premature Aging Comes From Drinking Distilled &/Or Non Filtered & Polluted Dead Waters!
Like a perfectly ripe piece of fruit, a good glass of water is pure, clean and alive! It is refreshing and satisfying. Drinking water is 1 of the 3 most important things we do every day! The other two are eating and sleeping! Interesting how most of us spend very little time understanding and learning about water! Even less than healthy eating or sleeping, and not that most have much knowledge in those areas! Hopefully one day schools and more people will understand the importance and power of water in its effects on our health. Most people will take weeks researching stereos or cell phones! And yet water effects our health more than virtually anything else we do on a daily basis!
Let�s find out how to drink the water of the longest lived healthiest people on the planet!
First let�s understand what NOT to drink! PLEASE do NOT drink plain Distilled, Reverse Osmosis (R.O) or unfiltered tap or most spring waters on a daily basis! They are DEAD waters! Of course the occasional glass is fine. I hope you agree that drinking unfiltered tap water could be hazardous to your health because of parasites, chlorine, fluoride, dioxins, heavy metals and a host of dangerous chemicals! Would you let a baby drink tap water? There are now over 75,000 chemicals on record produced in the world! Many can and do get in the water supply. Most of these chemicals can cause bladder and kidney cancers as well as nervous system damage. (11)
Many mimic our estrogen and are commonly referred to as xeno-estrogens. Excess estrogen is associated with "
by Wayne Gendel May 2003
LONGEVITY Is Associated with Drinking Mineralized Oxygen Rich Natural Pure �Living� Water!
But!
Premature Aging Comes From Drinking Distilled &/Or Non Filtered & Polluted Dead Waters!
Like a perfectly ripe piece of fruit, a good glass of water is pure, clean and alive! It is refreshing and satisfying. Drinking water is 1 of the 3 most important things we do every day! The other two are eating and sleeping! Interesting how most of us spend very little time understanding and learning about water! Even less than healthy eating or sleeping, and not that most have much knowledge in those areas! Hopefully one day schools and more people will understand the importance and power of water in its effects on our health. Most people will take weeks researching stereos or cell phones! And yet water effects our health more than virtually anything else we do on a daily basis!
Let�s find out how to drink the water of the longest lived healthiest people on the planet!
First let�s understand what NOT to drink! PLEASE do NOT drink plain Distilled, Reverse Osmosis (R.O) or unfiltered tap or most spring waters on a daily basis! They are DEAD waters! Of course the occasional glass is fine. I hope you agree that drinking unfiltered tap water could be hazardous to your health because of parasites, chlorine, fluoride, dioxins, heavy metals and a host of dangerous chemicals! Would you let a baby drink tap water? There are now over 75,000 chemicals on record produced in the world! Many can and do get in the water supply. Most of these chemicals can cause bladder and kidney cancers as well as nervous system damage. (11)
Many mimic our estrogen and are commonly referred to as xeno-estrogens. Excess estrogen is associated with "
Wednesday, April 12, 2006
Tanning high?
Tanning is a drug.
Well...sort of. According to recent research, people who tan themselves more than twice each week may be addicted to endorphins created in skin cells exposed to sunlight. Endorphins are opioid compounds that provide a mental boost and a feeling of wellbeing. Heroin and morphine are opioids, and just like these drugs, tanning can be addicting.
This theory was put to a test in a recent trial conducted by researchers at Wake Forest University Baptist Medical Center. Sixteen subjects were recruited: eight infrequent tanners, and eight frequent tanners. "Frequent" was defined as eight to fifteen tanning sessions per month.
Each subject was given 5 mg of naltrexone; a drug that blocks the effects of opioids by competing for opioid receptors in the brain. Naltrexone is used to treat opioid dependence and alcoholism.
Researchers steadily upped the naltrexone dosage until all subjects were receiving 15 mg. At that point, four of the frequent tanners displayed typical withdrawal symptoms such as jitteriness and nausea. Two of the four had to drop out of the study. Presumably they stripped to their skivvies and made a beeline for the beach.
None of the infrequent tanners had withdrawal symptoms.
On the upside, it's a good bet that all of these subjects have impressive vitamin D levels. The downside, of course, is a sharply increased risk of skin cancer. Richard Wagner, Jr., M.D. (who was not involved in the Wake Forest research), told WebMD Medical News that frequent tanning is a type of substance abuse so powerful that some skin cancer patients can't stop tanning, even though they're aware of the damage they're doing to themselves.
Most tanners, however, are probably not aware that they may be skin cancer patients in the making. As part of his research, Dr. Wagner took a trip to a beach where he used addiction questionnaires to survey a number of tanners at random. He told WebMD that about half the respondents had tanning habits that qualified as a substance-related disorder.
Well...sort of. According to recent research, people who tan themselves more than twice each week may be addicted to endorphins created in skin cells exposed to sunlight. Endorphins are opioid compounds that provide a mental boost and a feeling of wellbeing. Heroin and morphine are opioids, and just like these drugs, tanning can be addicting.
This theory was put to a test in a recent trial conducted by researchers at Wake Forest University Baptist Medical Center. Sixteen subjects were recruited: eight infrequent tanners, and eight frequent tanners. "Frequent" was defined as eight to fifteen tanning sessions per month.
Each subject was given 5 mg of naltrexone; a drug that blocks the effects of opioids by competing for opioid receptors in the brain. Naltrexone is used to treat opioid dependence and alcoholism.
Researchers steadily upped the naltrexone dosage until all subjects were receiving 15 mg. At that point, four of the frequent tanners displayed typical withdrawal symptoms such as jitteriness and nausea. Two of the four had to drop out of the study. Presumably they stripped to their skivvies and made a beeline for the beach.
None of the infrequent tanners had withdrawal symptoms.
On the upside, it's a good bet that all of these subjects have impressive vitamin D levels. The downside, of course, is a sharply increased risk of skin cancer. Richard Wagner, Jr., M.D. (who was not involved in the Wake Forest research), told WebMD Medical News that frequent tanning is a type of substance abuse so powerful that some skin cancer patients can't stop tanning, even though they're aware of the damage they're doing to themselves.
Most tanners, however, are probably not aware that they may be skin cancer patients in the making. As part of his research, Dr. Wagner took a trip to a beach where he used addiction questionnaires to survey a number of tanners at random. He told WebMD that about half the respondents had tanning habits that qualified as a substance-related disorder.
Sunday, April 09, 2006
Running on high octane or burning out big time?
Running on high octane or burning out big time?: "GETTING THE LEAST FROM YOUR STAFF
- Impose unreasonable demands.
- Refuse to give employees reasonable discretion over work.
- Fail to credit or acknowledge contributions and achievements.
- Create a treadmill -- too much to do, all at once, all the time.
- Create perpetual doubt, leaving workers unsure about future.
- Allow office politics to disrupt positive behaviour.
- Tolerate or foster unclear direction and job ambiguity.
- Reject, out of hand, employee workload concerns.
- Remember -- performance reviews (even positive ones) don't establish workers' role in the company's future. -- Global Business and Economic Roundtable on Addiction and Mental Health"
- Impose unreasonable demands.
- Refuse to give employees reasonable discretion over work.
- Fail to credit or acknowledge contributions and achievements.
- Create a treadmill -- too much to do, all at once, all the time.
- Create perpetual doubt, leaving workers unsure about future.
- Allow office politics to disrupt positive behaviour.
- Tolerate or foster unclear direction and job ambiguity.
- Reject, out of hand, employee workload concerns.
- Remember -- performance reviews (even positive ones) don't establish workers' role in the company's future. -- Global Business and Economic Roundtable on Addiction and Mental Health"
Wednesday, March 22, 2006
Men are Like ....
Men are like....
1. Men are like .....Laxatives .... They irritate the shit out of you.
2. Men are like ...... Bananas .... The older they get, the less firm they are.
3. Men are like ..... Weather ..... Nothing can be done to change them.
4. Men are like ........ Blenders ..... You need One, but you're not quite sure why.
5. Men are like ....... Chocolate Bars .... Sweet, smooth, & they usually head right for your hips.
6.Men are like ....... Commercials ..... You can't believe a word they say.
7. Men are like ........ Department Stores ..... Their clothes are always 1/2 off.
8. Men are like ........ Government Bonds ..... They take soooooooo long to mature.
9. Men are like ....... Mascara ...... They usually run at the first sign of emotion.
10. Men are like .... Popcorn . ...They satisfy you, but only for a little while.
11. Men are like ..... Snowstorms ...... You never know when they're coming, how many inches you'll get or how long it will last.
12. Men are like ..... Lava Lamps ..... Fun to look at, but not very bright.
13. Men are like ..... Parking Spots .....All the good ones are taken, the rest are handicapped.
1. Men are like .....Laxatives .... They irritate the shit out of you.
2. Men are like ...... Bananas .... The older they get, the less firm they are.
3. Men are like ..... Weather ..... Nothing can be done to change them.
4. Men are like ........ Blenders ..... You need One, but you're not quite sure why.
5. Men are like ....... Chocolate Bars .... Sweet, smooth, & they usually head right for your hips.
6.Men are like ....... Commercials ..... You can't believe a word they say.
7. Men are like ........ Department Stores ..... Their clothes are always 1/2 off.
8. Men are like ........ Government Bonds ..... They take soooooooo long to mature.
9. Men are like ....... Mascara ...... They usually run at the first sign of emotion.
10. Men are like .... Popcorn . ...They satisfy you, but only for a little while.
11. Men are like ..... Snowstorms ...... You never know when they're coming, how many inches you'll get or how long it will last.
12. Men are like ..... Lava Lamps ..... Fun to look at, but not very bright.
13. Men are like ..... Parking Spots .....All the good ones are taken, the rest are handicapped.
Thursday, March 16, 2006
Make you luck
Yahoo! Mail - respondfeedbacknow@yahoo.ca: "Clever Ways to Create Your Own Luck
Susan RoAne
y first book, How to Work a Room, was rejected by more than 20 publishers. Then a friend suggested that I attend the American Library Association's convention. I had the flu that day and didn't want to go. I went anyway -- and wound up meeting the publisher who said yes to my book. It went on to sell well over a million copies.
Was I lucky? Yes -- but only because I took an active step toward good fortune, rather than waiting for fortune to find me.
Lucky people always are on the lookout for 'you never know' moments, chance encounters that open doors to all sorts of possibilities. Here's how to find and maximize those opportunities...
Talk to strangers. It's the people you don't know who bring new opportunities to your doorstep. Example: A couple went to the opera and started a conversation with the couple seated next to them. During intermission, the second couple decided to leave early -- and asked the first couple if they would like to have their tickets to the postopera gala ball. It never would have happened without the chitchat. Helpful...
Focus on what you have in common. When you're in the same place with a stranger -- a charity fundraiser, for example, or your child's school -- you have something in common just by being there. It gives you something to talk about.
Wear something that invites people to talk to you. Madeleine Albright, the former US ambassador to the United Nations, often wore a large brooch because it was a conversation starter. Men can wear ties that reflect their interests, such as one from an art museum or a boater's club.
Smile and say hello. Make eye contact. Show that you're approachable, even if you'"
Susan RoAne
y first book, How to Work a Room, was rejected by more than 20 publishers. Then a friend suggested that I attend the American Library Association's convention. I had the flu that day and didn't want to go. I went anyway -- and wound up meeting the publisher who said yes to my book. It went on to sell well over a million copies.
Was I lucky? Yes -- but only because I took an active step toward good fortune, rather than waiting for fortune to find me.
Lucky people always are on the lookout for 'you never know' moments, chance encounters that open doors to all sorts of possibilities. Here's how to find and maximize those opportunities...
Talk to strangers. It's the people you don't know who bring new opportunities to your doorstep. Example: A couple went to the opera and started a conversation with the couple seated next to them. During intermission, the second couple decided to leave early -- and asked the first couple if they would like to have their tickets to the postopera gala ball. It never would have happened without the chitchat. Helpful...
Focus on what you have in common. When you're in the same place with a stranger -- a charity fundraiser, for example, or your child's school -- you have something in common just by being there. It gives you something to talk about.
Wear something that invites people to talk to you. Madeleine Albright, the former US ambassador to the United Nations, often wore a large brooch because it was a conversation starter. Men can wear ties that reflect their interests, such as one from an art museum or a boater's club.
Smile and say hello. Make eye contact. Show that you're approachable, even if you'"
Erasing tatoo regret - with lazers
"Erasing tattoo regret"
Clinics remove tatoos with lazer surgery - some costs covered by Health care. Interesting opportunity -minor surgery
Clinics remove tatoos with lazer surgery - some costs covered by Health care. Interesting opportunity -minor surgery
Wednesday, March 01, 2006
Saturday, February 11, 2006
Lusty Cdns. dialing up romantic heat
Lusty Cdns. dialing up romantic heat: "Lusty Cdns. dialing up romantic heat
Survey says when it comes to sex, most Canadians are phoning it in"
Survey says when it comes to sex, most Canadians are phoning it in"
Saturday, January 28, 2006
Wednesday, December 07, 2005
Getting Noticed
Getting Noticed: "Getting Noticed
Doctors, accountants, and other professionals need to market their businesses, too. Here's what works
Jordan Lipton, 40, and Elizabeth Perry, 39, loved being doctors. They had 20 years of hospital practice between them, but they wanted to spend more time with patients than the hospital-mandated seven minutes. They even dreamed of making house calls. "
Doctors, accountants, and other professionals need to market their businesses, too. Here's what works
Jordan Lipton, 40, and Elizabeth Perry, 39, loved being doctors. They had 20 years of hospital practice between them, but they wanted to spend more time with patients than the hospital-mandated seven minutes. They even dreamed of making house calls. "
Creativity tied to sexual "success"
- Artists may indeed have a more active love life than most of us -- and part of the reason may be their tendency toward a certain schizophrenia-linked personality trait, a study suggests.
In a survey of 425 British adults, researchers found that serious poets and visual artists generally had more sexual partners than those who were either not artistic or only dabbled in the arts.
Further analysis showed that one personality dimension -- a tendency toward "unusual" thoughts and perceptions -- was related to both creativity and sexual success.
That tendency is also seen in people with schizophrenia. And the findings, according to the study authors, may help explain why schizophrenia -- a mental disorder that often runs in families -- has not been extinguished from the gene pool.
Full storyhttp://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20051207/hl_nm/creativity_tied_sexual_success_dc
In a survey of 425 British adults, researchers found that serious poets and visual artists generally had more sexual partners than those who were either not artistic or only dabbled in the arts.
Further analysis showed that one personality dimension -- a tendency toward "unusual" thoughts and perceptions -- was related to both creativity and sexual success.
That tendency is also seen in people with schizophrenia. And the findings, according to the study authors, may help explain why schizophrenia -- a mental disorder that often runs in families -- has not been extinguished from the gene pool.
Full storyhttp://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20051207/hl_nm/creativity_tied_sexual_success_dc
Saturday, December 03, 2005
winnipegsun.com - Canada News - Size doesn't matter
winnipegsun.com - Canada News - Size doesn't matter
A 22-year-old student, who cannot be identified, claimed his penis is too big to insert into an average vagina without special preparation or it would cause bleeding and scarring.
A urologist brought to court a plastic model that depicted the size of the member at a semi-relaxed state, which measured 8 1/2 inches long and 6 1/2 inches in girth.
Court heard the male and female were close friends and often slept together platonically, but one night he forced her to have sex after a night of partying together at a Barrie pub.
In the end, the judge accepted that the accused is "unusually large" but she noted the female was never questioned on the witness stand about it, nor did she report any physical pain, discomfort or injury.
ouch -he was found quilty
A 22-year-old student, who cannot be identified, claimed his penis is too big to insert into an average vagina without special preparation or it would cause bleeding and scarring.
A urologist brought to court a plastic model that depicted the size of the member at a semi-relaxed state, which measured 8 1/2 inches long and 6 1/2 inches in girth.
Court heard the male and female were close friends and often slept together platonically, but one night he forced her to have sex after a night of partying together at a Barrie pub.
In the end, the judge accepted that the accused is "unusually large" but she noted the female was never questioned on the witness stand about it, nor did she report any physical pain, discomfort or injury.
ouch -he was found quilty
Sunday, November 06, 2005
winnipegsun.com - World - Gluing genitals proves costly
Hell has no fury -but there are consequences QJ
winnipegsun.com - World - Gluing genitals proves costly
winnipegsun.com - World - Gluing genitals proves costly
Wednesday, August 17, 2005
Monday, July 04, 2005
Winnipeg Sun: NEWS - Boot camp paying off
Winnipeg Sun: NEWS - Boot camp paying off: "Boot camp paying off
Significant gains - and losses - at halfway mark
By Rochelle Squires
If I stopped long enough to peek through strands of rain-drenched hair, I would see the end is near.
But I don't.
That would only distract me from the present moment, however uncomfortable it may be.
In the course of my four-week intensive exercise program, fondly referred to as boot camp, I have learned to bring the body and let the mind follow, or wander, or do whatever it wants to do.
The important thing is to keep moving. "
Significant gains - and losses - at halfway mark
By Rochelle Squires
If I stopped long enough to peek through strands of rain-drenched hair, I would see the end is near.
But I don't.
That would only distract me from the present moment, however uncomfortable it may be.
In the course of my four-week intensive exercise program, fondly referred to as boot camp, I have learned to bring the body and let the mind follow, or wander, or do whatever it wants to do.
The important thing is to keep moving. "
Friday, May 06, 2005
National Post Democracy at work?
National Post: "NATIONAL POST
Latest News
Conservatives win May 18 showdown
Liberals defiant
Anne Dawson
CanWest News Service
Friday, May 06, 2005
Leader of the Government in the House of Commons Tony Valeri. (CP/Tom Hanson)
OTTAWA - Parliament could be thrown into a constitutional crisis after the Conservatives yesterday won the right to hold a non-confidence vote on May 18, which the Liberals have vowed to ignore if they lose it.
The Speaker of the House of Commons ruled in favour of the Tories yesterday, clearing the way for a vote on a motion that calls on the government to resign -- something the Liberals had vigorously argued against -- which in turn could force a late-June election.
Although the Conservatives and the Bloc Quebecois appear to have enough votes between them to win a showdown, such an outcome is far from clear, with recent moves by the Liberals to win the support of Independent and Opposition MPs through offers of plum appointments and money for pet projects.
Despite the Speaker's ruling, Government House leader Tony Valeri said the government will not resign if the opposition wins the vote because it does not consider the non-confidence motion legitimate.
He said it is merely a 'procedural motion' that provides instructions to the finance committee, not the House of Commons.
'This is not a confidence motion at all,' Mr. Valeri said. 'What you have is the House instructing the committee to do something. The committee then needs to do it and then that needs to come back into the House ... to be debated and then voted on. By that time, we could probably be in June,' he said. 'That's the way we're interpreting it.'
However, the Libe"
Latest News
Conservatives win May 18 showdown
Liberals defiant
Anne Dawson
CanWest News Service
Friday, May 06, 2005
Leader of the Government in the House of Commons Tony Valeri. (CP/Tom Hanson)
OTTAWA - Parliament could be thrown into a constitutional crisis after the Conservatives yesterday won the right to hold a non-confidence vote on May 18, which the Liberals have vowed to ignore if they lose it.
The Speaker of the House of Commons ruled in favour of the Tories yesterday, clearing the way for a vote on a motion that calls on the government to resign -- something the Liberals had vigorously argued against -- which in turn could force a late-June election.
Although the Conservatives and the Bloc Quebecois appear to have enough votes between them to win a showdown, such an outcome is far from clear, with recent moves by the Liberals to win the support of Independent and Opposition MPs through offers of plum appointments and money for pet projects.
Despite the Speaker's ruling, Government House leader Tony Valeri said the government will not resign if the opposition wins the vote because it does not consider the non-confidence motion legitimate.
He said it is merely a 'procedural motion' that provides instructions to the finance committee, not the House of Commons.
'This is not a confidence motion at all,' Mr. Valeri said. 'What you have is the House instructing the committee to do something. The committee then needs to do it and then that needs to come back into the House ... to be debated and then voted on. By that time, we could probably be in June,' he said. 'That's the way we're interpreting it.'
However, the Libe"
Thursday, May 05, 2005
Sympatico / MSN Lifestyle : Body & Mind : Overcome Hidden Barriers to Success
Sympatico / MSN Lifestyle : Body & Mind : Overcome Hidden Barriers to Success: "Learn to become more self-aware and deal with issues of low self-esteem with this helpful advice.
Do you find it more difficult than most to reach important decisions? When faced with a problem, are you able to stay reasonably objective or do you internalize the situation? Every individual perceives crises situations differently and thus, handles them differently. People with high self-esteem generally feel confident when faced with unexpected life challenges, while those with lower self-esteem constantly question their ability to cope with them. The good news is that through self-awareness you can work on 'the weaker parts' of yourself and unleash your individual talents and uniqueness in all arenas of your life. "
Do you find it more difficult than most to reach important decisions? When faced with a problem, are you able to stay reasonably objective or do you internalize the situation? Every individual perceives crises situations differently and thus, handles them differently. People with high self-esteem generally feel confident when faced with unexpected life challenges, while those with lower self-esteem constantly question their ability to cope with them. The good news is that through self-awareness you can work on 'the weaker parts' of yourself and unleash your individual talents and uniqueness in all arenas of your life. "
Sunday, May 01, 2005
positive energy
Yahoo! Canada Mail - respondfeedbacknow@yahoo.ca
The Power of Positive Energy
Nancy Burson
ositive, loving thoughts make us feel optimistic and upbeat. We radiate a positive "energy." Others pick up on this positive energy when we walk into a room, and they start to feel a bit more positive themselves. When we have negative thoughts, we give off a negative energy that not only brings us down but can bring down the mood of a whole group.
You can't hide your true energy -- human beings are very good at picking up on each other's emotions. Fortunately, you can take control of your energy and learn to focus it. Strategies...
IDENTIFY NEGATIVE ENERGY AROUND YOU
You wake up feeling great, but by the afternoon, you're in a terrible mood -- even though nothing bad has happened in the interim. What went wrong? Chances are, you got saddled with someone else's negative energy.
To restore your positive feelings, identify where the negative energy came from. This might not be easy if you didn't notice that your energy had changed until hours later. But if you can find some quiet time to reflect on your day, it's usually possible to pinpoint when and why your energy shifted. Perhaps you had a conversation with someone who was feeling depressed... or you stood in line at the post office with customers who were anxious to be elsewhere. Once you identify the negative energy as belonging to someone else, it's easy to let it go. Just say to yourself, "This isn't mine," and picture it drifting away.
If you know people who are chronically negative, stay alert to your energy when they're around to prevent them from pulling you down.
SEPARATE YOUR PARENTS' ENERGY FROM YOUR OWN
Some people carry around energy their whole lives that belongs to their parents. Though they might come to think of this energy as their own, it really isn't.
Example: Parents who are fearful and anxious tend to raise children who are fearful and anxious.
Parental energy can be too deeply ingrained to dispense with entirely. But it can be put in perspective and identified as belonging to someone else so that it doesn't control our lives.
When you feel your parents' negative energy creeping into your thoughts, stop and tell yourself, "This is not my energy."
AVOID JUDGMENTS
When we strongly disagree with someone, we create negative energy that affects our moods. We also block ourselves off from considering the other person's point of view. Perhaps this person has something of value to say, even if we don't agree with all of his/her opinions.
It's best to avoid judgments. If someone is loudly expressing political beliefs that differ from your own, don't argue or silently seethe. Say, "That's an interesting point of view," and move on.
APOLOGIZE
Few things can change the energy of a relationship faster than an apology. We've all said or done things that we knew were wrong, either by accident or because we were angry and got carried away. If we let the situation evolve into a feud, we've created some of the most negative energy possible. Every time you think of this person, your mood will darken. But if we catch ourselves, apologize and explain what we really mean -- or simply admit we got carried away -- it can turn the relationship completely around and create a very positive energy. Heartfelt apologies are very rare in our culture, so they tend to be valued.
The Power of Positive Energy
Nancy Burson
ositive, loving thoughts make us feel optimistic and upbeat. We radiate a positive "energy." Others pick up on this positive energy when we walk into a room, and they start to feel a bit more positive themselves. When we have negative thoughts, we give off a negative energy that not only brings us down but can bring down the mood of a whole group.
You can't hide your true energy -- human beings are very good at picking up on each other's emotions. Fortunately, you can take control of your energy and learn to focus it. Strategies...
IDENTIFY NEGATIVE ENERGY AROUND YOU
You wake up feeling great, but by the afternoon, you're in a terrible mood -- even though nothing bad has happened in the interim. What went wrong? Chances are, you got saddled with someone else's negative energy.
To restore your positive feelings, identify where the negative energy came from. This might not be easy if you didn't notice that your energy had changed until hours later. But if you can find some quiet time to reflect on your day, it's usually possible to pinpoint when and why your energy shifted. Perhaps you had a conversation with someone who was feeling depressed... or you stood in line at the post office with customers who were anxious to be elsewhere. Once you identify the negative energy as belonging to someone else, it's easy to let it go. Just say to yourself, "This isn't mine," and picture it drifting away.
If you know people who are chronically negative, stay alert to your energy when they're around to prevent them from pulling you down.
SEPARATE YOUR PARENTS' ENERGY FROM YOUR OWN
Some people carry around energy their whole lives that belongs to their parents. Though they might come to think of this energy as their own, it really isn't.
Example: Parents who are fearful and anxious tend to raise children who are fearful and anxious.
Parental energy can be too deeply ingrained to dispense with entirely. But it can be put in perspective and identified as belonging to someone else so that it doesn't control our lives.
When you feel your parents' negative energy creeping into your thoughts, stop and tell yourself, "This is not my energy."
AVOID JUDGMENTS
When we strongly disagree with someone, we create negative energy that affects our moods. We also block ourselves off from considering the other person's point of view. Perhaps this person has something of value to say, even if we don't agree with all of his/her opinions.
It's best to avoid judgments. If someone is loudly expressing political beliefs that differ from your own, don't argue or silently seethe. Say, "That's an interesting point of view," and move on.
APOLOGIZE
Few things can change the energy of a relationship faster than an apology. We've all said or done things that we knew were wrong, either by accident or because we were angry and got carried away. If we let the situation evolve into a feud, we've created some of the most negative energy possible. Every time you think of this person, your mood will darken. But if we catch ourselves, apologize and explain what we really mean -- or simply admit we got carried away -- it can turn the relationship completely around and create a very positive energy. Heartfelt apologies are very rare in our culture, so they tend to be valued.
Sunday, April 24, 2005
Yahoo! Canada Mail - laughter is good medicine
Yahoo! Canada Mail - respondfeedbacknow@yahoo.ca
LAUGHTER ADVANTAGE
Laughter can be an effective coping mechanism against short-term stress, as in laughing off workplace hassles, but it can have risks.
Warning: Joking about a serious situation can be counterproductive. You don't want to laugh off risky behavior, such as smoking or reckless driving.
Another use of laughter: Pain relief. Studies have found laughing comparable to progressive relaxation and minor analgesics in reducing stress and pain.
INVITING HUMOR
Here are my guidelines for inviting laughter into your life...
Be social. When you build friendships, you're building laughter. The best way to start yourself laughing is to find someone to laugh with.
Television is only a last resort. And pets, though good for company, fall way short in stimulating laughter.
Seek out groups. The old adage The more the merrier is true. A large crowd laughs more than a small one.
Follow the sound of laughter. Laughter is contagious, so put yourself in situations where you'll catch it.
Say you're at a party and see a group of people laughing. Join that group. Whatever is going on there is likely to elicit laughter and humor in you.
Lower your laughter threshold. We tend to do this automatically in certain situations. If you are with someone who once made you laugh, you expect to repeat the experience. Once you're primed for laughter, even mild humor may seem hysterical. You wouldn't walk into an annual performance review with the boss in the same spirit, however.
Keep funny things around -- photographs, joke books, movies you've enjoyed, etc.... or something that connects you to another person even in his/her absence, such as a funny card he has sent you. Such items can be potent pick-me-ups, so make them readily available for when you need them most.
Think beyond your own laughter. A sense of humor, a trait admired by everyone, refers not to your yuks and titters, but to your ability to give the gift of laughter. Laughter is a gift that is always returned with interest.
LAUGHTER ADVANTAGE
Laughter can be an effective coping mechanism against short-term stress, as in laughing off workplace hassles, but it can have risks.
Warning: Joking about a serious situation can be counterproductive. You don't want to laugh off risky behavior, such as smoking or reckless driving.
Another use of laughter: Pain relief. Studies have found laughing comparable to progressive relaxation and minor analgesics in reducing stress and pain.
INVITING HUMOR
Here are my guidelines for inviting laughter into your life...
Be social. When you build friendships, you're building laughter. The best way to start yourself laughing is to find someone to laugh with.
Television is only a last resort. And pets, though good for company, fall way short in stimulating laughter.
Seek out groups. The old adage The more the merrier is true. A large crowd laughs more than a small one.
Follow the sound of laughter. Laughter is contagious, so put yourself in situations where you'll catch it.
Say you're at a party and see a group of people laughing. Join that group. Whatever is going on there is likely to elicit laughter and humor in you.
Lower your laughter threshold. We tend to do this automatically in certain situations. If you are with someone who once made you laugh, you expect to repeat the experience. Once you're primed for laughter, even mild humor may seem hysterical. You wouldn't walk into an annual performance review with the boss in the same spirit, however.
Keep funny things around -- photographs, joke books, movies you've enjoyed, etc.... or something that connects you to another person even in his/her absence, such as a funny card he has sent you. Such items can be potent pick-me-ups, so make them readily available for when you need them most.
Think beyond your own laughter. A sense of humor, a trait admired by everyone, refers not to your yuks and titters, but to your ability to give the gift of laughter. Laughter is a gift that is always returned with interest.
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