Advisor.ca - Growing your business: "Earn client confidence: an eight-point checklist
Jeff Thorsteinson
(February 2007) 'If you have confidence in your lure, you will catch fish,' says one of the millionaires interviewed by Thomas J. Stanley in his book The Millionaire Mind.
There's wisdom for advisors in those words. When it comes right down to it, confidence is the key to success in this business. Everything you do as an advisor, whether selecting investments, building financial plans, or creating a customized client service process, is all intended to earn the confidence of your ideal client. That confidence in hand, you can build the practice you want — with the clients you want.
I realize there are a number of coaches out there who tout a reality that just doesn't jive with this, but it is certainly within your reality to corral a group and instill confidence about your ability to achieve for them. "
Tuesday, February 13, 2007
Sunday, February 11, 2007
Wednesday, January 31, 2007
You are what you eat Men stand up and pay attention
Kitchen "Cure" for Erectile Dysfunction Many men look to the little blue pill to solve the problem of erectile dysfunction (ED), but according to a recent Italian study from the second University of Naples, the real answer might not be in the medicine chest but in the kitchen. The study investigated how following a Mediterranean-style diet (a diet rich in whole grains, fresh fruits/vegetables, dried beans and other legumes, olive oil, nuts and fish and a reduced intake of red or processed meat) would impact ED in men with metabolic syndrome, defined by a cluster of symptoms, including raised blood pressure, abdominal obesity, insulin resistance, blood lipid disorders and elevated markers for blood clotting and inflammation. Men with metabolic syndrome also have a higher incidence of ED -- nearly 27% versus 13% of men without the syndrome. For this study, researchers gathered 65 men with both ED and metabolic syndrome and put 35 of them on a Mediterranean diet. The 30 men in the control group received information about healthy eating practices, but they did not follow a specific food plan.
At the end of two years, approximately one-third of the men on the Mediterranean diet regained normal sexual functioning versus just two men in the control group. And more good news -- those following the Mediterranean diet had a significant decrease in blood glucose, insulin, LDL cholesterol, triglycerides and blood pressure and a significant increase in HDL cholesterol. Furthermore, their blood showed lowered inflammation and improved endothelial function (having to do with blood vessel function). Study authors speculate that the increased fiber and antioxidants in the diet, with its emphasis on whole foods and olive oil, may play a role in the men's improvement, though all elements acting together may have been even more important. I spoke with urologist and ED specialist Arthur L. Burnett II, MD, professor of urology and director of the Male Consultation Clinic at the Johns Hopkins Medical Institutions about this study. He says that this may be the first controlled study demonstrating how effective dietary changes can be. While he agrees that because ED and cardiovascular disease have been shown to have some of the same risk factors, the increase in antioxidants in the diet would surely have had an impact.
He also points out that when people are eating healthful foods, they are eating fewer injurious ones such as high-fat meats. Dr. Burnett adds that we need more research to further confirm whether diet and modified lifestyle can limit or reverse the problem of ED, but it is obviously intuitive that eating healthfully as well as maintaining a normal weight and cholesterol levels and not smoking are, at the very least, important steps.
At the end of two years, approximately one-third of the men on the Mediterranean diet regained normal sexual functioning versus just two men in the control group. And more good news -- those following the Mediterranean diet had a significant decrease in blood glucose, insulin, LDL cholesterol, triglycerides and blood pressure and a significant increase in HDL cholesterol. Furthermore, their blood showed lowered inflammation and improved endothelial function (having to do with blood vessel function). Study authors speculate that the increased fiber and antioxidants in the diet, with its emphasis on whole foods and olive oil, may play a role in the men's improvement, though all elements acting together may have been even more important. I spoke with urologist and ED specialist Arthur L. Burnett II, MD, professor of urology and director of the Male Consultation Clinic at the Johns Hopkins Medical Institutions about this study. He says that this may be the first controlled study demonstrating how effective dietary changes can be. While he agrees that because ED and cardiovascular disease have been shown to have some of the same risk factors, the increase in antioxidants in the diet would surely have had an impact.
He also points out that when people are eating healthful foods, they are eating fewer injurious ones such as high-fat meats. Dr. Burnett adds that we need more research to further confirm whether diet and modified lifestyle can limit or reverse the problem of ED, but it is obviously intuitive that eating healthfully as well as maintaining a normal weight and cholesterol levels and not smoking are, at the very least, important steps.
Monday, January 29, 2007
How to always win
Interesting with some good points
How to Always Win
A stellar characteristic of Americans has always been their ability to compete, indeed to win. This zeal to achieve has accomplished many wonderful things for our country and its citizens, including major medical discoveries, unparalleled economic success, even liberty itself. But after the extremely negative campaigning of the recent elections, and the endless nightly debate about whether or not we are winning the war on terror and who's to blame for what's right or wrong in our country, I can't help but ask if our need to compete has gone awry. It doesn't seem to be enough any more to succeed. What worries me is people's need to take it a step further to prove they are right, and sometimes, to prove they're right no matter what. You can be sure that a win-at-all-costs attitude does not contribute to good relationships on a global scale or, as concerns me here, to personal relationships, which are, after all, the bedrock of a person's emotional and physical well being.
For insight on this painful problem, I talked with Lauren Zander and Meredith Haberfeld of Handel Group Private Coaching (www.handelgrouppc.com). Lauren points out that in every conversation, people have an agenda. It might be to inform, to amuse, to get to know each other better or just to pass the time -- there are lots of reasons for verbal exchanges. But when the agenda includes ensuring that you are right, by definition it means establishing that the other person is wrong. There isn't a conversation in the world that doesn't ultimately come to a screeching halt if one or both parties have the attitude that "I am right, you are wrong, now get used to it." This is incredibly destructive to any relationship -- in the Middle East, in the workplace, with your in-laws, or in the bedroom -- because it slams the door on any real possibility for a dialog. In fact, Lauren says the battle to be "right" is at the base of all dysfunction, be it wars between countries, conflicts at work or closer to home -- marital or parent-child conflicts.
WHAT IS FACT?
There is a simple truth at play here. It is possible to be right -- look out the window and if you see water falling from the clouds you can rightly announce it is raining... or that the sun is shining... or that it is night or day. While some philosophy students may debate this, obvious facts of this nature fall neatly into a right/wrong category. But just about everything else in the world is far more complex and dwells in the world not of black and white, but of gray. This is the realm of relativism, says Lauren, which means that what is right to me is shaped by my point of view and isn't necessarily right to the other person. Meredith explains that often our own point of view is shaped by misunderstandings or misinterpretations that we assume to be hard fact. If you want a relationship to work, she continues, the most important thing you can do is understand that virtually every thought and opinion you have is based on personal perception, not on fact.
Couples may argue that one spouse was being rude or unfair but the so-called offending spouse doesn't see it that way. In fact, that person no doubt thinks the other one was being unfair. Perspective is behind the difference and determines why you both think you are right.
It is crucial to understand and accept that your perspective is not fact and that both parties have a valid point of view. This is how contradictory opinions can exist in a relationship without causing disharmony. The problem is that most people are invested in their own interpretation and perspective and are disinterested in the other person's. Deep inside, people believe that by making themselves right and their "opponent" wrong they'll "win," but this form of winning is not necessarily the key to happiness or success. Once people are willing to accept the existence of contradictory "truths," it changes the dynamics of the discussion because no one is any longer trying to win. Lauren calls this insistence on being right a manipulation, which is a common human trick. People dress their opinion up in self-righteousness -- you have to accept what I am saying because I am right! I am reminded of a couple I know who have different religious beliefs. When he tries to open her thinking to even entertain the idea that others see things differently, she responds "but I know I am right." That ends the conversation -- and much to her frustration, ends her attempts to convert him and win.
SEEKING A NEW DEFINITION OF VICTORY
While the need to win creates continuous and deep-seated relationship dilemmas, it is possible for anyone to pull out of this emotional quagmire and, in so doing, immediately improve interactions with others -- including with those who are closest to you. It is no longer about having one person right and one wrong. Rather, Meredith explains, it is listening to each other's "truths" completely so you have all version(s) of the situation and accept that another person can have a different opinion. Here is what Lauren advises to make this important change...
Accept that most discussions, including yours, are not based on fact but rather on a relative point of view.
Always evaluate if you are discussing fact (weather, the time, the color of your new car, etc.).
Ask yourself if you are treating your platform as fact when it is actually your opinion (and if your discussion has become a battle, you can be sure opinions are the subject).
Frame your conversation in words that convey not "this is how it is," but rather, "when you said this, what I meant was... " or "this is how it seemed to me" -- in other words, that you accept that your "truth" may be based on important misunderstandings that you believed to be true, and that each view of the situation as it was or is, not as an absolute truth.
After someone speaks and shares their point of view, before you give yours, first say theirs back to them so they feel heard and understood. And be open to correction, because if you say something that didn't accurately capture their perspective, they should make sure you get it correctly.
CHANGE ONLY TAKES ONE
You may now be thinking that this is great for you, but what about the other guy? If he won't change his position, what good will this do? Take heart -- Lauren observes that when one person assumes responsibility for accepting that his/her perspective is relative and understands that aiming to "win" leaves everyone as losers, it is sufficient to turn a discussion around. You have put one fact on the table and that is there are two different points of view going on. Who can argue with that? You allow the other his/her right to his view of the truth -- but you also claim the right to yours. This acceptance surpasses the need to win, allowing a peaceful negotiation of the situation -- if not immediately than in the near future... and that is truly winning in a far more constructive way.
How to Always Win
A stellar characteristic of Americans has always been their ability to compete, indeed to win. This zeal to achieve has accomplished many wonderful things for our country and its citizens, including major medical discoveries, unparalleled economic success, even liberty itself. But after the extremely negative campaigning of the recent elections, and the endless nightly debate about whether or not we are winning the war on terror and who's to blame for what's right or wrong in our country, I can't help but ask if our need to compete has gone awry. It doesn't seem to be enough any more to succeed. What worries me is people's need to take it a step further to prove they are right, and sometimes, to prove they're right no matter what. You can be sure that a win-at-all-costs attitude does not contribute to good relationships on a global scale or, as concerns me here, to personal relationships, which are, after all, the bedrock of a person's emotional and physical well being.
For insight on this painful problem, I talked with Lauren Zander and Meredith Haberfeld of Handel Group Private Coaching (www.handelgrouppc.com). Lauren points out that in every conversation, people have an agenda. It might be to inform, to amuse, to get to know each other better or just to pass the time -- there are lots of reasons for verbal exchanges. But when the agenda includes ensuring that you are right, by definition it means establishing that the other person is wrong. There isn't a conversation in the world that doesn't ultimately come to a screeching halt if one or both parties have the attitude that "I am right, you are wrong, now get used to it." This is incredibly destructive to any relationship -- in the Middle East, in the workplace, with your in-laws, or in the bedroom -- because it slams the door on any real possibility for a dialog. In fact, Lauren says the battle to be "right" is at the base of all dysfunction, be it wars between countries, conflicts at work or closer to home -- marital or parent-child conflicts.
WHAT IS FACT?
There is a simple truth at play here. It is possible to be right -- look out the window and if you see water falling from the clouds you can rightly announce it is raining... or that the sun is shining... or that it is night or day. While some philosophy students may debate this, obvious facts of this nature fall neatly into a right/wrong category. But just about everything else in the world is far more complex and dwells in the world not of black and white, but of gray. This is the realm of relativism, says Lauren, which means that what is right to me is shaped by my point of view and isn't necessarily right to the other person. Meredith explains that often our own point of view is shaped by misunderstandings or misinterpretations that we assume to be hard fact. If you want a relationship to work, she continues, the most important thing you can do is understand that virtually every thought and opinion you have is based on personal perception, not on fact.
Couples may argue that one spouse was being rude or unfair but the so-called offending spouse doesn't see it that way. In fact, that person no doubt thinks the other one was being unfair. Perspective is behind the difference and determines why you both think you are right.
It is crucial to understand and accept that your perspective is not fact and that both parties have a valid point of view. This is how contradictory opinions can exist in a relationship without causing disharmony. The problem is that most people are invested in their own interpretation and perspective and are disinterested in the other person's. Deep inside, people believe that by making themselves right and their "opponent" wrong they'll "win," but this form of winning is not necessarily the key to happiness or success. Once people are willing to accept the existence of contradictory "truths," it changes the dynamics of the discussion because no one is any longer trying to win. Lauren calls this insistence on being right a manipulation, which is a common human trick. People dress their opinion up in self-righteousness -- you have to accept what I am saying because I am right! I am reminded of a couple I know who have different religious beliefs. When he tries to open her thinking to even entertain the idea that others see things differently, she responds "but I know I am right." That ends the conversation -- and much to her frustration, ends her attempts to convert him and win.
SEEKING A NEW DEFINITION OF VICTORY
While the need to win creates continuous and deep-seated relationship dilemmas, it is possible for anyone to pull out of this emotional quagmire and, in so doing, immediately improve interactions with others -- including with those who are closest to you. It is no longer about having one person right and one wrong. Rather, Meredith explains, it is listening to each other's "truths" completely so you have all version(s) of the situation and accept that another person can have a different opinion. Here is what Lauren advises to make this important change...
Accept that most discussions, including yours, are not based on fact but rather on a relative point of view.
Always evaluate if you are discussing fact (weather, the time, the color of your new car, etc.).
Ask yourself if you are treating your platform as fact when it is actually your opinion (and if your discussion has become a battle, you can be sure opinions are the subject).
Frame your conversation in words that convey not "this is how it is," but rather, "when you said this, what I meant was... " or "this is how it seemed to me" -- in other words, that you accept that your "truth" may be based on important misunderstandings that you believed to be true, and that each view of the situation as it was or is, not as an absolute truth.
After someone speaks and shares their point of view, before you give yours, first say theirs back to them so they feel heard and understood. And be open to correction, because if you say something that didn't accurately capture their perspective, they should make sure you get it correctly.
CHANGE ONLY TAKES ONE
You may now be thinking that this is great for you, but what about the other guy? If he won't change his position, what good will this do? Take heart -- Lauren observes that when one person assumes responsibility for accepting that his/her perspective is relative and understands that aiming to "win" leaves everyone as losers, it is sufficient to turn a discussion around. You have put one fact on the table and that is there are two different points of view going on. Who can argue with that? You allow the other his/her right to his view of the truth -- but you also claim the right to yours. This acceptance surpasses the need to win, allowing a peaceful negotiation of the situation -- if not immediately than in the near future... and that is truly winning in a far more constructive way.
Friday, January 19, 2007
Tim Knox, Serial Entrepreneur, Speaker, Columnist, Author, Consultant, Small Business Expert
Tim Knox, Serial Entrepreneur, Speaker, Columnist, Author, Consultant, Small Business Expert: "Good Help Really Is Hard To Find
by Tim Knox
Copyright © 2007
A few years ago I wrote a column in which I compared managing employees to herding cats: just when you think you have everyone organized in a happy little group and going in the same direction one cat breaks from the herd and heads off to do its own thing.
Then another cat falls out of line, then another, then another. Finally two more cats ask to go home sick and three others just wander off after lunch, never to be heard from again.
Do you think managing employees has gotten any easier since that column was written? Have cats gotten any more obedient?
The truth is, managing employees is the easy part: attracting (or finding) qualified employees is the really hard part. "
by Tim Knox
Copyright © 2007
A few years ago I wrote a column in which I compared managing employees to herding cats: just when you think you have everyone organized in a happy little group and going in the same direction one cat breaks from the herd and heads off to do its own thing.
Then another cat falls out of line, then another, then another. Finally two more cats ask to go home sick and three others just wander off after lunch, never to be heard from again.
Do you think managing employees has gotten any easier since that column was written? Have cats gotten any more obedient?
The truth is, managing employees is the easy part: attracting (or finding) qualified employees is the really hard part. "
Tuesday, January 09, 2007
TECH WIFE1 PROGRAM TROUBLESHOOTING
Subject: N.B.
Dear Tech Support:
Last year I upgraded from Girlfriend 7.0 to Wife 1.0. I soon noticed
that the new program began unexpected child processing that took up a lot of space and valuable resources. In addition, Wife 1.0 installed itself into all other programs and now monitors all other system>activity. Applications such as Poker Night 10.3, Football 5.0, Hunting and Fishing 7.5, and Racing 3.6 no longer run, crashing the system whenever selected.
I can't seem to keep Wife 1.0 in the background while attempting to run my favorite applications. I'm thinking about going back to Girlfriend 7.0, but the uninstall doesn't work on Wife 1.0. Please help!
Thanks,
A Troubled User.
(KEEP READING) I ATTACH A PICTURE OF MY MALFUNCTIONING WI UNIT
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> > REPLY:
Dear Troubled User:
This is a very common problem that men complain about.
Many people upgrade from Girlfriend 7.0 to Wife 1.0, thinking that it is just a Utilities and Entertainment program. Wife 1.0 is an OPERATING SYSTEM and is designed by its Creator to run EVERYTHING!!! It is also impossible to delete Wife 1.0 and to return to Girlfriend 7.0. It is impossible to uninstall, or purge the program files from the system once installed.
You cannot go back to Girlfriend 7.0 because Wife 1.0 is designed to not allow this. Look in your Wife 1.0 manual under Warnings-Alimony-Child Support. I recommend that you keep Wife1.0 and work on improving the situation. I suggest installing the background application "Yes Dear" to alleviate software augmentation.
The best course of action is to enter the command C:\APOLOGIZE because ultimately you will have to give the APOLOGIZE command before the system will return to normal anyway.
Wife 1.0 is a great program, but it tends to be very high maintenance.
Wife 1.0 comes with several support programs, such as Clean and Sweep 3.0, Cook It 1.5 and Do Bills 4.2. However, be very careful how you use these programs. Improper use will cause the system to launch the program Nag, Nag 9.5. Once this happens, the only way to improve the performance of Wife 1.0 is to purchase additional software. I recommend Flowers 2.1 and Diamonds 5.0! WARNING!!! DO NOT, under any circumstances, install Secretary With Short Skirt 3.3. This application is not supported by Wife 1.0 and will cause irreversible damage to the operating system.
Best of luck,
Tech Support BACK TO EDEN GURU
accupressure points
Relief at Your Fingertips Press on your hand and relieve a headache? Touch between your eyes and reduce anxiety? Sounds like a game you might play with children, but in fact it is part of the Chinese medicine practice of acupressure. Research studies have centered on the health benefits of acupuncture, in which fine needles are inserted into "acupoints" -- specific places along the body's energy pathways called meridians. Chinese medicine teaches that within meridians, energy can get blocked, becomes too low or too high, which can cause pain or discomfort in other -- but related -- places in the body. Acupressure, which actually predates acupuncture, uses pressure rather than needles on these acupoints. By applying pressure at the correlated point, it relieves the energy block and restores a normal energy flow and gets rid of the pain or discomfort. Acupuncture requires a well-trained professional. The great thing about acupressure is that, depending on the ailment, you can actually help yourself. This isn't to say that acupressure is to be taken lightly. Acupressure is sophisticated and requires extensive training, but there are a few simple strategies that anyone, with proper instruction, can use to address some common discomforts in themselves or others. For information on how people can use this technique, I spoke with naturopathic physician and licensed acupuncturist Joan-Ellen Macredis, ND, LAc, MAc, who also uses acupressure in her practice in Stamford, Connecticut. There are some differences in how various practitioners teach self-strategies, but Dr. Macredis told me that the following general guidelines are what she has found to be best...
To apply pressure to a point, use your thumb and press straight down to the stage of mild discomfort but not pain. Less is often more in this case, she says. Some people find that rubbing clockwise on the point works well for them, but she prefers to start people with finger pressure and if results are good, stay with it.
Hold pressure for 10 seconds, release and reapply for sessions of up to five minutes. Pressing longer than five minutes per session can create light-headedness, she cautions.
Never press in and out -- this can aggravate pain or create a general feeling of malaise, says Dr. Macredis.
Start with just one session a day. You may not feel results until the next day and should too much energy be released, it may end up increasing discomfort. If that happens, adjust by shortening the amount of time you apply pressure or decrease pressure. Conversely, if you want more stimulation, add one or at most two five-minute sessions per day.
Drink a full glass of water before or after you start and avoid practicing when you are hungry. Wait 20 minutes after eating, bathing or exercising. TOP ACUPOINTS With this in mind, following are the areas where energy commonly gets stuck, says Dr. Macredis...
Hand point. This addresses any kind of problem in the area of the head including headaches, sinus pain, colds, etc. Close the space between your thumb and index finger to make a mound appear. Go to the top of the mound at the juncture between the thumb and index finger and press with your thumb. Try clockwise rotation rubbing if pressure alone doesn't work.
Toe point. This is good for relieving muscular or skeletal pain, PMS, headaches or general irritability. Find the space where the first and second toes meet. Your finger will fall into a groove. It will feel as if your thumb has fallen into a small hole, she says, and is the correct point to apply pressure. To obtain greater relief, Dr. Macredis advises a pressure session for both the hand site and the toe site. Start with pressure on the same-side body points. If you want more relief, switch to doing it on opposite hand and foot sides instead. However, never apply pressure at all four points, in other words, don't apply on both hands and both feet. That would release too much energy in general, she says.
Wrist point. Try this for nausea. Bend the inside of your hand toward you to form a crease at the wrist. Move your thumb the width of two thumbs toward the body and press.
Shin point. This is the place where you can ease indigestion woes. Locate the shin bone (tibia) just below the knee cap. Place your thumb at the highest point and measure one thumb width to the outside of the bone, the right of the tibia, and slide your finger down the bone to locate any sensitive area to touch. This is your pressure point.
Ankle point. If toe point pressure doesn't relieve menstrual cramps sufficiently, add this. Find the indentation on your inside leg between the ankle bone and the Achilles tendon. Go up about three thumb widths above the anklebone and apply pressure.
The third eye point. This point is called the Yintang point and provides a handy way to soothe a headache or sinus pain, to calm a bad mood or anxiety and it serves as a general pick-me-up. Find the middle point between your eyebrows and press with your middle finger. Do not apply pressure for more than 30 to 60 seconds and do this only one time. There are many more points and many other problems acupressure can address including more specific digestive issues. More than this, though, requires hands that are properly trained in the art of energy release. From the energetic to the purely physiological, there is much to be gained from a little pressure.
To apply pressure to a point, use your thumb and press straight down to the stage of mild discomfort but not pain. Less is often more in this case, she says. Some people find that rubbing clockwise on the point works well for them, but she prefers to start people with finger pressure and if results are good, stay with it.
Hold pressure for 10 seconds, release and reapply for sessions of up to five minutes. Pressing longer than five minutes per session can create light-headedness, she cautions.
Never press in and out -- this can aggravate pain or create a general feeling of malaise, says Dr. Macredis.
Start with just one session a day. You may not feel results until the next day and should too much energy be released, it may end up increasing discomfort. If that happens, adjust by shortening the amount of time you apply pressure or decrease pressure. Conversely, if you want more stimulation, add one or at most two five-minute sessions per day.
Drink a full glass of water before or after you start and avoid practicing when you are hungry. Wait 20 minutes after eating, bathing or exercising. TOP ACUPOINTS With this in mind, following are the areas where energy commonly gets stuck, says Dr. Macredis...
Hand point. This addresses any kind of problem in the area of the head including headaches, sinus pain, colds, etc. Close the space between your thumb and index finger to make a mound appear. Go to the top of the mound at the juncture between the thumb and index finger and press with your thumb. Try clockwise rotation rubbing if pressure alone doesn't work.
Toe point. This is good for relieving muscular or skeletal pain, PMS, headaches or general irritability. Find the space where the first and second toes meet. Your finger will fall into a groove. It will feel as if your thumb has fallen into a small hole, she says, and is the correct point to apply pressure. To obtain greater relief, Dr. Macredis advises a pressure session for both the hand site and the toe site. Start with pressure on the same-side body points. If you want more relief, switch to doing it on opposite hand and foot sides instead. However, never apply pressure at all four points, in other words, don't apply on both hands and both feet. That would release too much energy in general, she says.
Wrist point. Try this for nausea. Bend the inside of your hand toward you to form a crease at the wrist. Move your thumb the width of two thumbs toward the body and press.
Shin point. This is the place where you can ease indigestion woes. Locate the shin bone (tibia) just below the knee cap. Place your thumb at the highest point and measure one thumb width to the outside of the bone, the right of the tibia, and slide your finger down the bone to locate any sensitive area to touch. This is your pressure point.
Ankle point. If toe point pressure doesn't relieve menstrual cramps sufficiently, add this. Find the indentation on your inside leg between the ankle bone and the Achilles tendon. Go up about three thumb widths above the anklebone and apply pressure.
The third eye point. This point is called the Yintang point and provides a handy way to soothe a headache or sinus pain, to calm a bad mood or anxiety and it serves as a general pick-me-up. Find the middle point between your eyebrows and press with your middle finger. Do not apply pressure for more than 30 to 60 seconds and do this only one time. There are many more points and many other problems acupressure can address including more specific digestive issues. More than this, though, requires hands that are properly trained in the art of energy release. From the energetic to the purely physiological, there is much to be gained from a little pressure.
Thursday, December 28, 2006
Click and overome the hurdles of Change in 07
How to Overcome the Hurdles of Change
Try as you might, you can't seem to get rid of those 15 extra pounds... or quit smoking... or calm your combustible temper that gets you in trouble and sets your blood pressure soaring. We all have trouble spots like these -- nagging problems that we honestly want to change... and try to change.
However, in spite of all the self-help books, expert advice and all the tricks to 'fool yourself into change' (like taping pictures of obese people on the refrigerator, or serving food on smaller plates) the change doesn't last long. Remember all those broken New Year's resolutions? This can be disappointing and make you feel as if the problem is insurmountable.
But the thing that I've noticed over the years is that the times that I have made a significant and lasting change in my life, the change is precipitated by a shift in my perception and understanding of the challenge. One day I get a different understanding of the issue, and something goes 'click' in my head... I simply realize that I want to change the behavior -- and I do it. This happened when I stopped eating foods with processed sugar. It also happened when I stopped losing my temper with my children. One day I got a different perspective on those behaviors and realized that I truly didn't want to do them anymore. After the realization, behaving differently was easy.
What is this click that went off inside me? How did I come to it? And what can people do to bring about a click when they need one? For insight on this intriguing challenge, I spok
I spoke with life coach Meredith Haberfeld, co-founder and CEO of Handel Group Private Coaching (www.handelgrouppc.com).
DEFINING THE CLICK
The click actually isn't that mysterious, says Meredith. What it is quite simply is a profound realization that you are done with the old way of doing things. We all have areas of life where we've declared something done. Whether it's being done with meaningless dating, done with smoking, done tolerating a bad relationship... we all have areas of life where we have come to an insight that shifts reality for us, starting with the declaration that we're done. For example, the day I decided not to lose my temper at my children any more, I also saw how childish I was behaving when I would argue with them.
This realization might come on gradually or it could be a sudden onset, but whichever way it comes to you, it is a deep, clear recognition that it is absolutely possible for you to do or be something other than how you are now. What's holding us back? Meredith explained that most of us walk around pretending to ourselves that we are "trying really hard" or "doing the best we can" or "doing a good job." In reality, our reasons are virtually always the culprit. The "reasons," justifications and excuses keep us from making the real change that is required.
For example, Meredith explains she spent years disappointed that her home was messy, disorganized and somewhat unpleasant for her to be in, but "explained" it to herself with a private litany of excuses -- including that the mess wasn't hers, but her family's... that she was already spending too much time cleaning up after them... and that they weren't interested in changing. Then, one day, she saw the sadness of her helplessness and didn't like what she saw. This gave her the impetus to change her point of view about it, which in turn helped her realize that she could change the situation.
Step one is to create new rules you can live with. On the day you realize you're actually in charge of your choices and your life -- whether it's your temper, your weight, even your marriage -- and you give up the right to all your good excuses, the previously insurmountable roadblocks cease to block you any longer.
Meredith explains that people who continue to wallow in "change-worthy behavior" do so in part because they don't want to deal with the effort of living up to their own standard, so they tolerate their behavior, even feel bad about it, and pretend they've been "trying." They've had the behavior forever, they've even tried to change multiple times and failed repeatedly. But they just keep doing it. Meredith calls this the farce of "trying hard."
Once the click has occurred, people no longer tolerate their excuses because they have replaced them with the deep understanding that...
The desired outcome is altogether possible.
They can be done with their prior behavior.
Their explanations and reasons were justifications that kept them from doing what is best.
Feeling bad is a diversion to keep you from dealing with the change.
ORIGINS OF CLICK
There are three situations that can trigger the click. Occasionally it's inspiration that brings it about. Maybe your child begs you to quit smoking, or you read a book that touches your psyche. Perhaps someone you know struggled and conquered a similar problem and you realized that, yes, you could do that too.
The second situation is more familiar -- people reach the point of being, as Meredith describes it, "at their wit's end" at hanging on to a problem. This explains why many people find it takes four or five attempts to quit smoking. They reach the point of becoming so sick of a habit they know is killing them that they reach their wit's end --- their brain screams "enough," and at last they get the click.
The third reason is also the most common one -- life delivers a blow or a dilemma you can neither deny nor run from and so you must respond. You have a heart attack and must lose weight. Your boss informs you that a bad habit is threatening your job. Your spouse warns that a divorce may lie ahead. Whatever the occurrence, it genuinely scares you enough to put a critical mass of energy in motion and get you started in pursuit of a better way.
HOW TO FIND YOUR CLICK
If life doesn't deliver you a blow, there are things you can do that will stimulate the emergence of a click and, in turn, a change in behavior, says Meredith. To help you get to the point of asking "haven't I had enough of myself?", put the following questions to the test...
What impact am I having or what's the impact on me and on others regarding the current situation? Write this out. For example -- if you get angry, you need to see that you're no fun to be with, and even worse, you're righteous about your opinion. Do you really have to ruin your mood and everyone else's mood to make your point? It really is emotionally upsetting to all involved to hold onto the "bad" behavior.
What benefit do I gain from my "bad" behavior? Consider whether the bad behavior is protecting you from confronting a challenge. Or, is it making you feel better? Making you feel loved? Write it all out to get to the bottom of it.
Who are the people I surround myself with? Spending time with people who are in the same negative place as you have been and people who are using the same excuses for being there is holding you back.
What people are having the kind of life I would like for myself? Find these people and surround yourself with them -- it is a powerful way to reinforce your belief that this is possible and it will provide a behavior for you to model.
Are the thoughts that stream through my mind a running litany of excuses that hold me back? You're justified to be angry... you need the ice cream to feel better... you can't quit smoking, you've tried before. These are all examples of lies. Catch them as they surface and refuse to let them remain in your mind to nag at your new beliefs.
The good news is that once you have that click and start on your way, your new path is clear and the "old behavior" no longer nags at you. This is because the click shifted your energy and it is now in a place to keep you moving forward. Meredith does caution about one thing, though. If you fall down on your new standards now and then, don't waste time feeling bad about it. Feeling bad is a trap, she warns, because it allows you to pretend you were not in charge of the choice. Instead, be proud that you're working on this area, that you're catching yourself when you fail, and remind yourself of the thinking that gave you the click in the first place. Then get back to work."
Try as you might, you can't seem to get rid of those 15 extra pounds... or quit smoking... or calm your combustible temper that gets you in trouble and sets your blood pressure soaring. We all have trouble spots like these -- nagging problems that we honestly want to change... and try to change.
However, in spite of all the self-help books, expert advice and all the tricks to 'fool yourself into change' (like taping pictures of obese people on the refrigerator, or serving food on smaller plates) the change doesn't last long. Remember all those broken New Year's resolutions? This can be disappointing and make you feel as if the problem is insurmountable.
But the thing that I've noticed over the years is that the times that I have made a significant and lasting change in my life, the change is precipitated by a shift in my perception and understanding of the challenge. One day I get a different understanding of the issue, and something goes 'click' in my head... I simply realize that I want to change the behavior -- and I do it. This happened when I stopped eating foods with processed sugar. It also happened when I stopped losing my temper with my children. One day I got a different perspective on those behaviors and realized that I truly didn't want to do them anymore. After the realization, behaving differently was easy.
What is this click that went off inside me? How did I come to it? And what can people do to bring about a click when they need one? For insight on this intriguing challenge, I spok
I spoke with life coach Meredith Haberfeld, co-founder and CEO of Handel Group Private Coaching (www.handelgrouppc.com).
DEFINING THE CLICK
The click actually isn't that mysterious, says Meredith. What it is quite simply is a profound realization that you are done with the old way of doing things. We all have areas of life where we've declared something done. Whether it's being done with meaningless dating, done with smoking, done tolerating a bad relationship... we all have areas of life where we have come to an insight that shifts reality for us, starting with the declaration that we're done. For example, the day I decided not to lose my temper at my children any more, I also saw how childish I was behaving when I would argue with them.
This realization might come on gradually or it could be a sudden onset, but whichever way it comes to you, it is a deep, clear recognition that it is absolutely possible for you to do or be something other than how you are now. What's holding us back? Meredith explained that most of us walk around pretending to ourselves that we are "trying really hard" or "doing the best we can" or "doing a good job." In reality, our reasons are virtually always the culprit. The "reasons," justifications and excuses keep us from making the real change that is required.
For example, Meredith explains she spent years disappointed that her home was messy, disorganized and somewhat unpleasant for her to be in, but "explained" it to herself with a private litany of excuses -- including that the mess wasn't hers, but her family's... that she was already spending too much time cleaning up after them... and that they weren't interested in changing. Then, one day, she saw the sadness of her helplessness and didn't like what she saw. This gave her the impetus to change her point of view about it, which in turn helped her realize that she could change the situation.
Step one is to create new rules you can live with. On the day you realize you're actually in charge of your choices and your life -- whether it's your temper, your weight, even your marriage -- and you give up the right to all your good excuses, the previously insurmountable roadblocks cease to block you any longer.
Meredith explains that people who continue to wallow in "change-worthy behavior" do so in part because they don't want to deal with the effort of living up to their own standard, so they tolerate their behavior, even feel bad about it, and pretend they've been "trying." They've had the behavior forever, they've even tried to change multiple times and failed repeatedly. But they just keep doing it. Meredith calls this the farce of "trying hard."
Once the click has occurred, people no longer tolerate their excuses because they have replaced them with the deep understanding that...
The desired outcome is altogether possible.
They can be done with their prior behavior.
Their explanations and reasons were justifications that kept them from doing what is best.
Feeling bad is a diversion to keep you from dealing with the change.
ORIGINS OF CLICK
There are three situations that can trigger the click. Occasionally it's inspiration that brings it about. Maybe your child begs you to quit smoking, or you read a book that touches your psyche. Perhaps someone you know struggled and conquered a similar problem and you realized that, yes, you could do that too.
The second situation is more familiar -- people reach the point of being, as Meredith describes it, "at their wit's end" at hanging on to a problem. This explains why many people find it takes four or five attempts to quit smoking. They reach the point of becoming so sick of a habit they know is killing them that they reach their wit's end --- their brain screams "enough," and at last they get the click.
The third reason is also the most common one -- life delivers a blow or a dilemma you can neither deny nor run from and so you must respond. You have a heart attack and must lose weight. Your boss informs you that a bad habit is threatening your job. Your spouse warns that a divorce may lie ahead. Whatever the occurrence, it genuinely scares you enough to put a critical mass of energy in motion and get you started in pursuit of a better way.
HOW TO FIND YOUR CLICK
If life doesn't deliver you a blow, there are things you can do that will stimulate the emergence of a click and, in turn, a change in behavior, says Meredith. To help you get to the point of asking "haven't I had enough of myself?", put the following questions to the test...
What impact am I having or what's the impact on me and on others regarding the current situation? Write this out. For example -- if you get angry, you need to see that you're no fun to be with, and even worse, you're righteous about your opinion. Do you really have to ruin your mood and everyone else's mood to make your point? It really is emotionally upsetting to all involved to hold onto the "bad" behavior.
What benefit do I gain from my "bad" behavior? Consider whether the bad behavior is protecting you from confronting a challenge. Or, is it making you feel better? Making you feel loved? Write it all out to get to the bottom of it.
Who are the people I surround myself with? Spending time with people who are in the same negative place as you have been and people who are using the same excuses for being there is holding you back.
What people are having the kind of life I would like for myself? Find these people and surround yourself with them -- it is a powerful way to reinforce your belief that this is possible and it will provide a behavior for you to model.
Are the thoughts that stream through my mind a running litany of excuses that hold me back? You're justified to be angry... you need the ice cream to feel better... you can't quit smoking, you've tried before. These are all examples of lies. Catch them as they surface and refuse to let them remain in your mind to nag at your new beliefs.
The good news is that once you have that click and start on your way, your new path is clear and the "old behavior" no longer nags at you. This is because the click shifted your energy and it is now in a place to keep you moving forward. Meredith does caution about one thing, though. If you fall down on your new standards now and then, don't waste time feeling bad about it. Feeling bad is a trap, she warns, because it allows you to pretend you were not in charge of the choice. Instead, be proud that you're working on this area, that you're catching yourself when you fail, and remind yourself of the thinking that gave you the click in the first place. Then get back to work."
Monday, December 25, 2006
The meaning of Christmas
Banning Christmas trees in court houses -the cancerous political correctness and other nonsense prevelant today - misses the point of what Christmas really means
winnipegsun.com - Editorial - The meaning of Christmas: "The true meaning of Christmas lies in marking and celebrating the birth of the Christ child tomorrow.
- We do that through prayers and worship, both privately and in church.
- We do it by sharing the joy of the season with family and friends.
- By comforting the afflicted and, if we can afford it, donating to worthy charities such as the Salvation Army.
- That said, there's nothing wrong with giving presents to those we love, as long as they are genuine expressions of love and affection intended to make them happy, not put pressure on them to reciprocate. And as long as we can afford to give what we're getting them.
The problem is that those who regard Christmas as ONLY about gifts, trees and decorations miss the point.
The real way to celebrate Christmas is through our generosity toward others, measured not by the thickness of our wallets, but by the size of our hearts.
Have a Merry Christmas. "
Friday, December 22, 2006
Are you ready to be optimistic
worth reading and applying in 07
The Power of Positive Self-Talk Brian Tracy
Perhaps the most powerful influence on your attitude and personality is what you say to yourself, and believe. It is not what happens to you, but how you respond internally to what happens to you, that determines your thoughts and felling and, ultimately, your actions. By controlling your inner dialogue, or "self-talk," you can begin to assert control over every other dimension of your life. Your self-talk, the words that you use to describe what is happening to you, and to discuss how you feel about external events, determines the quality and tone of your emotional life. When you see things positively and constructively and look for the good in each situation and each person, you have a tendency to remain naturally positive and optimistic. Since the quality of your life is determined by how you feel, moment to moment, one of your most important goals should be to use every psychological technique available to keep yourself thinking about what you want and to keep your mind off of what you don't want, or what you fear.
Arnold Toynbee, the historian, developed what he called the "challenge-response theory" of history. In studying the rise and fall of 20 major world civilizations, Toynbee concluded that each civilization started out as a small group of people - as a village, as a tribe or in the case of the Mongol empire, as just three people who had survived the destruction of their small community. Toynbee concluded that each of these small groups faced external challenges, such as hostile tribes. In order to survive, much less thrive, these small groups had to reorganize themselves to deal positively and constructively with these challenges. By meeting each of these challenges successfully, the village or tribe would grow. Even greater challenges would be triggered as a result. And if this group of people continued to meet each challenge by drawing upon its resources and winning out, it would continue to grow until ultimately it became a nation-state and then a civilization covering a large geographical area.
Toynbee looked at the 21 great civilizations of human history, ending with the American civilization, and concluded that these civilizations began to decline and fall apart when their citizens and leaders lost the will or ability to rise to the inevitable external challenges occasioned by their very size and power.
Toynbee's theory of civilizations can be applicable to our life as well. You are continually faced with challenges and difficulties, with problems and disappointments, with temporary setbacks and defeats. They are an unavoidable and inevitable part of being human. But, as you draw upon your resources to respond effectively to each challenge, you grow and become a stronger and better person. In fact, without those setbacks, you could not have learned what you needed to know and developed the qualities of your character to where they are today. Much of your ability to succeed comes from the way you deal with life. One of the characteristics of superior men and women is that they recognize the inevitability of temporary disappointments and defeats, and they accept them as a normal and natural part of life. They do everything possible to avoid problems, but when problems come, superior people learn from them, rise above the, and continue onward in the direction of their dreams.
Dr. Martin Seligman of the University of Pennsylvania has written a fascinating book based on his 25 years of research into this subject. It's titled Learned Optimism. In this book, Dr. Seligman explains the basic response patterns of both positive and negative people. As a result of his many years of work in cognitive therapy, and the use of exhaustive testing, he finds, quite simply, that optimistic people tend to interpret events in such a way that they keep their minds positive and their emotions under control. Optimists develop the habit of talking to themselves in constructive ways. Whenever they experience an adversity, they immediately describe it to themselves in such a way that it loses its ability to trigger negative emotions and feelings of helplessness. Dr. Seligman says that are three basic differences in the reactions of optimists and pessimists. The first difference is that the optimist sees a setback as temporary, while the pessimist sees it as permanent. The optimist sees an unfortunate event, such as an order that falls through or a sales call that fails, as a temporary event, something that is limited in time and that has no real impact on the future. The pessimist, on the other hand, sees negative events as permanent, as part of life and destiny. For example, let's say that the optimistic salesperson makes 10 calls on likely prospects, and every one of those calls is unsuccessful. The optimist simply interprets this as a temporary event and a matter of averages or probabilities. The optimist concludes that, with every temporary failure, he is moving closer to the prospect who will turn into a sale. The optimist dismisses the event and goes on cheerfully to the 11th and 12th prospects. The pessimist sees the same situation differently. The pessimist has a tendency to conclude that 10 unsuccessful sales calls is an indication that the economy is terrible and that there is no market for his product. The pessimist generalizes and begins to see the situation and his career as hopeless. While the optimist just shrugs it off and gets on with the next call, the pessimist becomes discouraged and loses heart and enthusiasm for the hard work of prospecting. The second difference between the optimist and the pessimist is that the optimist sees difficulties as specific, while the pessimist sees them as pervasive. This means that when things go wrong for the optimist, he looks at the event as an isolated incident largely disconnected from other things that are going on in his life. For example, if something you were counting on failed to materialize and you interpreted it to yourself as being an unfortunate event, but something that happens in the course of life and business, you would be reacting like an optimist. The pessimist, on the other hand, sees disappointments as being pervasive. That is, to him they are indications of a problem or shortcoming that pervades every area of life. If a pessimist worked hard to put together a business deal and it collapsed, he would tend to assume that the deal did not work out was because the product or the company or the economy was in poor shape and the whole business was hopeless. The pessimist would tend to feel helpless, unable to make a difference and out of control of his destiny. The third difference between optimists and pessimists is that optimists see events as external, while pessimists interpret events as personal. When things go wrong, the optimist will tend to see the setback as result from external factors over which one has little control. If the optimist is cut off in traffic, for example, instead of getting angry or upset, he will simply downgrade the importance of the event by saying something like, "oh, well, I guess that person is just having a bad day." The pessimist has a tendency to take everything personally. If the pessimist is cut off in traffic, he will react as though the other driver has deliberately acted to upset and frustrate him. The pessimist will become angry and negative and want to strike out and get even. Often, he will honk his horn or yell at the other driver. There is a natural tendency in all of us to react emotionally when our expectations are frustrated in any way. When something we wanted and hoped for fails to materialize, we feel a temporary sense of disappointment and unhappiness. We feel disillusioned. We react as though we have been punched in the "emotional solar plexus." The optimistic person, however, soon moves beyond this disappointment. He responds quickly to the adverse event and interprets it as being temporary, specific and external to himself. The optimist takes full control of his inner dialogue and counters the negative feelings by immediately reframing the event so that it appear positive in some way.
*About the Author: Brian Tracy is a leading authority on personal and business success. As Chairman and CEO of Brian Tracy International, he is the best-selling author of 17 books and over 300 audio and video learning programs.
The Power of Positive Self-Talk Brian Tracy
Perhaps the most powerful influence on your attitude and personality is what you say to yourself, and believe. It is not what happens to you, but how you respond internally to what happens to you, that determines your thoughts and felling and, ultimately, your actions. By controlling your inner dialogue, or "self-talk," you can begin to assert control over every other dimension of your life. Your self-talk, the words that you use to describe what is happening to you, and to discuss how you feel about external events, determines the quality and tone of your emotional life. When you see things positively and constructively and look for the good in each situation and each person, you have a tendency to remain naturally positive and optimistic. Since the quality of your life is determined by how you feel, moment to moment, one of your most important goals should be to use every psychological technique available to keep yourself thinking about what you want and to keep your mind off of what you don't want, or what you fear.
Arnold Toynbee, the historian, developed what he called the "challenge-response theory" of history. In studying the rise and fall of 20 major world civilizations, Toynbee concluded that each civilization started out as a small group of people - as a village, as a tribe or in the case of the Mongol empire, as just three people who had survived the destruction of their small community. Toynbee concluded that each of these small groups faced external challenges, such as hostile tribes. In order to survive, much less thrive, these small groups had to reorganize themselves to deal positively and constructively with these challenges. By meeting each of these challenges successfully, the village or tribe would grow. Even greater challenges would be triggered as a result. And if this group of people continued to meet each challenge by drawing upon its resources and winning out, it would continue to grow until ultimately it became a nation-state and then a civilization covering a large geographical area.
Toynbee looked at the 21 great civilizations of human history, ending with the American civilization, and concluded that these civilizations began to decline and fall apart when their citizens and leaders lost the will or ability to rise to the inevitable external challenges occasioned by their very size and power.
Toynbee's theory of civilizations can be applicable to our life as well. You are continually faced with challenges and difficulties, with problems and disappointments, with temporary setbacks and defeats. They are an unavoidable and inevitable part of being human. But, as you draw upon your resources to respond effectively to each challenge, you grow and become a stronger and better person. In fact, without those setbacks, you could not have learned what you needed to know and developed the qualities of your character to where they are today. Much of your ability to succeed comes from the way you deal with life. One of the characteristics of superior men and women is that they recognize the inevitability of temporary disappointments and defeats, and they accept them as a normal and natural part of life. They do everything possible to avoid problems, but when problems come, superior people learn from them, rise above the, and continue onward in the direction of their dreams.
Dr. Martin Seligman of the University of Pennsylvania has written a fascinating book based on his 25 years of research into this subject. It's titled Learned Optimism. In this book, Dr. Seligman explains the basic response patterns of both positive and negative people. As a result of his many years of work in cognitive therapy, and the use of exhaustive testing, he finds, quite simply, that optimistic people tend to interpret events in such a way that they keep their minds positive and their emotions under control. Optimists develop the habit of talking to themselves in constructive ways. Whenever they experience an adversity, they immediately describe it to themselves in such a way that it loses its ability to trigger negative emotions and feelings of helplessness. Dr. Seligman says that are three basic differences in the reactions of optimists and pessimists. The first difference is that the optimist sees a setback as temporary, while the pessimist sees it as permanent. The optimist sees an unfortunate event, such as an order that falls through or a sales call that fails, as a temporary event, something that is limited in time and that has no real impact on the future. The pessimist, on the other hand, sees negative events as permanent, as part of life and destiny. For example, let's say that the optimistic salesperson makes 10 calls on likely prospects, and every one of those calls is unsuccessful. The optimist simply interprets this as a temporary event and a matter of averages or probabilities. The optimist concludes that, with every temporary failure, he is moving closer to the prospect who will turn into a sale. The optimist dismisses the event and goes on cheerfully to the 11th and 12th prospects. The pessimist sees the same situation differently. The pessimist has a tendency to conclude that 10 unsuccessful sales calls is an indication that the economy is terrible and that there is no market for his product. The pessimist generalizes and begins to see the situation and his career as hopeless. While the optimist just shrugs it off and gets on with the next call, the pessimist becomes discouraged and loses heart and enthusiasm for the hard work of prospecting. The second difference between the optimist and the pessimist is that the optimist sees difficulties as specific, while the pessimist sees them as pervasive. This means that when things go wrong for the optimist, he looks at the event as an isolated incident largely disconnected from other things that are going on in his life. For example, if something you were counting on failed to materialize and you interpreted it to yourself as being an unfortunate event, but something that happens in the course of life and business, you would be reacting like an optimist. The pessimist, on the other hand, sees disappointments as being pervasive. That is, to him they are indications of a problem or shortcoming that pervades every area of life. If a pessimist worked hard to put together a business deal and it collapsed, he would tend to assume that the deal did not work out was because the product or the company or the economy was in poor shape and the whole business was hopeless. The pessimist would tend to feel helpless, unable to make a difference and out of control of his destiny. The third difference between optimists and pessimists is that optimists see events as external, while pessimists interpret events as personal. When things go wrong, the optimist will tend to see the setback as result from external factors over which one has little control. If the optimist is cut off in traffic, for example, instead of getting angry or upset, he will simply downgrade the importance of the event by saying something like, "oh, well, I guess that person is just having a bad day." The pessimist has a tendency to take everything personally. If the pessimist is cut off in traffic, he will react as though the other driver has deliberately acted to upset and frustrate him. The pessimist will become angry and negative and want to strike out and get even. Often, he will honk his horn or yell at the other driver. There is a natural tendency in all of us to react emotionally when our expectations are frustrated in any way. When something we wanted and hoped for fails to materialize, we feel a temporary sense of disappointment and unhappiness. We feel disillusioned. We react as though we have been punched in the "emotional solar plexus." The optimistic person, however, soon moves beyond this disappointment. He responds quickly to the adverse event and interprets it as being temporary, specific and external to himself. The optimist takes full control of his inner dialogue and counters the negative feelings by immediately reframing the event so that it appear positive in some way.
*About the Author: Brian Tracy is a leading authority on personal and business success. As Chairman and CEO of Brian Tracy International, he is the best-selling author of 17 books and over 300 audio and video learning programs.
Tuesday, December 19, 2006
Women shop a lot more from the doctor
In the last Daily Dose, I surely got myself in hot water with at least half my audience by citing some new science that gives credence to the age-old notion that women are bigger chatterboxes — er, I mean more comprehensive communicators — than men are…
Well, now there’s some new data validating another stereotype of women the civilized world over: That they tend to shop a lot.
According to another recent article in the UK Daily Mail (Male?), a survey study of 3,000 British women revealed some staggering factoids about every girl’s favorite pastime. If the research is right, the average UK woman:
Makes 301 shopping trips per year for all purposes combined (1 every 29 hours)
“Window-shops” 51 times annually, for a total of more than 2 full days
Spends a combined total of 4 days per year in the supermarket alone
Devotes 90 shopping excursions specifically to finding shoes, clothes, accessories and toiletries for herself
Expends more than one full waking day (18 hours) shopping ONLY for personal deodorants, shower gels, and razors
Makes 19 total shopping quests per year in search of gifts for friends and family
And perhaps the most astounding finding of all: The average UK woman will spend MORE THAN 8 YEARS OF HER LIFE shopping!
Now, before you go and assume that I’m being judgmental or ridiculing of the fairer sex, I want you to think about this: What would the existence of most of the men in these women’s lives be like if they DIDN’T spend so much time in search of the ultimate bargains, tastiest food, and most perfect fashion accessories?
Keep reading…
What would men’s lives be like if their women weren’t borderline shop-a-holics?
I’ll tell you what they’d be like: Dull, boring, colorless, lifeless, curtain-less, TV-dinner-eating, ratty-old-clothes-wearing, greeting card-less, newspaper gift-wrapped, candle-less, smelly-bathroom-ed, unscented-soaped, plain-toweled, holiday-decoration-less, dirt-yarded, ugly-housed, sexless, romance-less, and vacation-less…
Not to mention damn near without a moment’s peace — since their women would always be home instead of out shopping.
I’m serious here, folks. Men can take care of themselves, but not well. They’re hard-wired to think only of the essentials. The big picture. Just about all of the details that make life truly worth living come to us from our women. A lot of men I’ve known bitch about the credit card bills and all the stuff their ladies buy — but they’re failing to consider what those dollars are REALLY buying…
Time to themselves and happiness for their ladies (which equals happiness for them).
What they don’t realize is that this is one of the truly great differences in the sexes that men should appreciate above all other things. Women’s drive to acquire beautiful things, stockpile provisions, and keep themselves (and you) looking as pretty as possible should be nurtured at all costs.
Especially now, during the holidays. So cut loose the plastic, boys, and give your girls the gift they really want this Christmas: A first-class shopping trip (or 10 of them)…
I promise the benefits will come back to you far more than most of the money you could spend on yourself or your own hobbies.
Hopefully not offending about the realities of spending,
William Campbell Douglass II, M.D.
P.S. Lest you think I’m a raving sexist, I’d be willing to bet this: If ever there were a study conducted about the average man’s absorption of sports on TV, I’ll bet it would give the girls’ shopping time a run for its money…
Well, now there’s some new data validating another stereotype of women the civilized world over: That they tend to shop a lot.
According to another recent article in the UK Daily Mail (Male?), a survey study of 3,000 British women revealed some staggering factoids about every girl’s favorite pastime. If the research is right, the average UK woman:
Makes 301 shopping trips per year for all purposes combined (1 every 29 hours)
“Window-shops” 51 times annually, for a total of more than 2 full days
Spends a combined total of 4 days per year in the supermarket alone
Devotes 90 shopping excursions specifically to finding shoes, clothes, accessories and toiletries for herself
Expends more than one full waking day (18 hours) shopping ONLY for personal deodorants, shower gels, and razors
Makes 19 total shopping quests per year in search of gifts for friends and family
And perhaps the most astounding finding of all: The average UK woman will spend MORE THAN 8 YEARS OF HER LIFE shopping!
Now, before you go and assume that I’m being judgmental or ridiculing of the fairer sex, I want you to think about this: What would the existence of most of the men in these women’s lives be like if they DIDN’T spend so much time in search of the ultimate bargains, tastiest food, and most perfect fashion accessories?
Keep reading…
What would men’s lives be like if their women weren’t borderline shop-a-holics?
I’ll tell you what they’d be like: Dull, boring, colorless, lifeless, curtain-less, TV-dinner-eating, ratty-old-clothes-wearing, greeting card-less, newspaper gift-wrapped, candle-less, smelly-bathroom-ed, unscented-soaped, plain-toweled, holiday-decoration-less, dirt-yarded, ugly-housed, sexless, romance-less, and vacation-less…
Not to mention damn near without a moment’s peace — since their women would always be home instead of out shopping.
I’m serious here, folks. Men can take care of themselves, but not well. They’re hard-wired to think only of the essentials. The big picture. Just about all of the details that make life truly worth living come to us from our women. A lot of men I’ve known bitch about the credit card bills and all the stuff their ladies buy — but they’re failing to consider what those dollars are REALLY buying…
Time to themselves and happiness for their ladies (which equals happiness for them).
What they don’t realize is that this is one of the truly great differences in the sexes that men should appreciate above all other things. Women’s drive to acquire beautiful things, stockpile provisions, and keep themselves (and you) looking as pretty as possible should be nurtured at all costs.
Especially now, during the holidays. So cut loose the plastic, boys, and give your girls the gift they really want this Christmas: A first-class shopping trip (or 10 of them)…
I promise the benefits will come back to you far more than most of the money you could spend on yourself or your own hobbies.
Hopefully not offending about the realities of spending,
William Campbell Douglass II, M.D.
P.S. Lest you think I’m a raving sexist, I’d be willing to bet this: If ever there were a study conducted about the average man’s absorption of sports on TV, I’ll bet it would give the girls’ shopping time a run for its money…
Monday, December 18, 2006
Women talk more -a medical opinion
Women’s lip: A fact of life
I’m going to get in trouble for this one, I just know it. But don’t shoot the messenger…
We spend a lot of time in American society denying or minimizing the differences between the sexes. And as un-PC as it is to say, this is a purely political ploy designed to erase men’s natural advantages in some professional fields — like where physical strength, spatial judgments, or mathematical calculation is required.
Studies NOT at the mercy of the political winds have borne out time and again that men have certain advantages in these areas. Sorry, but it’s true.
Not that women don’t have some major edges in other areas — they do. Look at publishing, writing, editing and journalism fields. The girls not only compete in these arenas, but often dominate them. Same for teaching, nursing, social work and a lot of other careers.
The bottom line is that in this modern political climate, women are allowed to exploit their advantages over men whenever they can — but men aren’t allowed to do the same over women. And if they inadvertently do, they have to be ashamed of it and hide their masculinity every day. It’s a major double standard, and it’d be funny if it weren’t so screwy. But I digress…
Today’s column is about a major difference between men and women that PC political forces try to deny or sweep under the carpet: The fact that women TALK MORE THAN MEN. For some odd reason, this assertion has been raising ladies’ hackles for years. It’s almost as though if this were proved true it would somehow diminish women’s stature in society or something.
Must be a chick thing, I don’t know.
But regardless of how anyone FEELS about it, the fact is that — just as most men have suspected since the dawn of language — women chatter (sorry, vocalize) around 3 times as much as men do. And yet another body of research has proven it.
According to a recent UK Daily Mail article, a new book titled The Female Mind — written by a University of California affiliated, self-labeled feminist named Dr. Luan Brizendine — reveals that the average woman gives voice to around 20,000 words per day, compared to just 7,000 or so from the typical man. Keep reading…
The reasons women talk more than men, Brizendine claims, begin in the womb.
According to this daring doctor, this disparity in expressiveness is the result of actual physiological and hormonal differences in the way men’s and women’s brains develop — not from man-centric societal influences (as most revisionist PC types would maintain).
See? We ARE different! Deal with it, feminists…
As if this isn’t politically incorrect enough, she also maintains that women actually get a kind of heroin-like brain-chemical “buzz” from hearing their own voices! Kind of puts a new twist on things when men say that their women are arguing just to hear themselves talk, doesn’t it? (I’m going to get it for that crack, I know). The news isn’t all unflattering for the ladies, though. Brizendine redeems herself with her militant feminist readers by suggesting that the same brain chemistry differences that make men and women talk at such differing rates also enable men to become “deaf” to their women’s protestations…
Small consolation for the girls, I realize. But I’m in the truth biz, not the “fuzzy lies” one.
And since I’m already in hot water with the fairer sex today — I might as well go all the way with it tomorrow. Stay tuned…
Talking too much (for my own good) about who’s talking too much,
William Campbell Douglass II, M.D.
I’m going to get in trouble for this one, I just know it. But don’t shoot the messenger…
We spend a lot of time in American society denying or minimizing the differences between the sexes. And as un-PC as it is to say, this is a purely political ploy designed to erase men’s natural advantages in some professional fields — like where physical strength, spatial judgments, or mathematical calculation is required.
Studies NOT at the mercy of the political winds have borne out time and again that men have certain advantages in these areas. Sorry, but it’s true.
Not that women don’t have some major edges in other areas — they do. Look at publishing, writing, editing and journalism fields. The girls not only compete in these arenas, but often dominate them. Same for teaching, nursing, social work and a lot of other careers.
The bottom line is that in this modern political climate, women are allowed to exploit their advantages over men whenever they can — but men aren’t allowed to do the same over women. And if they inadvertently do, they have to be ashamed of it and hide their masculinity every day. It’s a major double standard, and it’d be funny if it weren’t so screwy. But I digress…
Today’s column is about a major difference between men and women that PC political forces try to deny or sweep under the carpet: The fact that women TALK MORE THAN MEN. For some odd reason, this assertion has been raising ladies’ hackles for years. It’s almost as though if this were proved true it would somehow diminish women’s stature in society or something.
Must be a chick thing, I don’t know.
But regardless of how anyone FEELS about it, the fact is that — just as most men have suspected since the dawn of language — women chatter (sorry, vocalize) around 3 times as much as men do. And yet another body of research has proven it.
According to a recent UK Daily Mail article, a new book titled The Female Mind — written by a University of California affiliated, self-labeled feminist named Dr. Luan Brizendine — reveals that the average woman gives voice to around 20,000 words per day, compared to just 7,000 or so from the typical man. Keep reading…
The reasons women talk more than men, Brizendine claims, begin in the womb.
According to this daring doctor, this disparity in expressiveness is the result of actual physiological and hormonal differences in the way men’s and women’s brains develop — not from man-centric societal influences (as most revisionist PC types would maintain).
See? We ARE different! Deal with it, feminists…
As if this isn’t politically incorrect enough, she also maintains that women actually get a kind of heroin-like brain-chemical “buzz” from hearing their own voices! Kind of puts a new twist on things when men say that their women are arguing just to hear themselves talk, doesn’t it? (I’m going to get it for that crack, I know). The news isn’t all unflattering for the ladies, though. Brizendine redeems herself with her militant feminist readers by suggesting that the same brain chemistry differences that make men and women talk at such differing rates also enable men to become “deaf” to their women’s protestations…
Small consolation for the girls, I realize. But I’m in the truth biz, not the “fuzzy lies” one.
And since I’m already in hot water with the fairer sex today — I might as well go all the way with it tomorrow. Stay tuned…
Talking too much (for my own good) about who’s talking too much,
William Campbell Douglass II, M.D.
Wednesday, August 09, 2006
House warming
Summer does not have to be boring . Want a challenge - try a retrofit and house makeover -chuckle 
Thursday, June 29, 2006
Whining Ways
MSN Hotmail - Message: "Whining Ways
Whining is one of the childhood behaviors most disliked by adults -- it's plain annoying, grating and unproductive. Meanwhile, it's also a behavior that many adults still engage in -- a lot. In fact, according to Lauren Zander, Principal of The Handel Group, a consultancy that helps corporations to flourish by helping individuals to reach their true potetntial within the organization and Meredith Haberfeld, CEO of Handel Group subsidiary Personal-Evolution www.personal-evolution.com, most adults have carefully disguised their whining by removing the irritating intonation from their voice or simply by doing most of their whining in their own heads, to a spouse or to a best friend. But that doesn't make whining any less toxic.
No matter the form, whining is highly unproductive for the simple reason that it takes the place of proactively taking action to change things. As such, it becomes a major stumbling block standing in the way of healthier habits, a richer and more fulfilling life and better, more loving relationships. Once you're aware of how prevalent whining is, you'll understand why I wanted to share Lauren and Meredith's philosophy on how to rid ourselves and our world of whining.
THE WHYS OF WHINING
People whine when they feel powerless -- or at least when they think they're powerless. Children form the habit of whining because they quickly learn it can get them something they want that they can't (or choose not to) get for themselves. Say a chil"
Whining is one of the childhood behaviors most disliked by adults -- it's plain annoying, grating and unproductive. Meanwhile, it's also a behavior that many adults still engage in -- a lot. In fact, according to Lauren Zander, Principal of The Handel Group, a consultancy that helps corporations to flourish by helping individuals to reach their true potetntial within the organization and Meredith Haberfeld, CEO of Handel Group subsidiary Personal-Evolution www.personal-evolution.com, most adults have carefully disguised their whining by removing the irritating intonation from their voice or simply by doing most of their whining in their own heads, to a spouse or to a best friend. But that doesn't make whining any less toxic.
No matter the form, whining is highly unproductive for the simple reason that it takes the place of proactively taking action to change things. As such, it becomes a major stumbling block standing in the way of healthier habits, a richer and more fulfilling life and better, more loving relationships. Once you're aware of how prevalent whining is, you'll understand why I wanted to share Lauren and Meredith's philosophy on how to rid ourselves and our world of whining.
THE WHYS OF WHINING
People whine when they feel powerless -- or at least when they think they're powerless. Children form the habit of whining because they quickly learn it can get them something they want that they can't (or choose not to) get for themselves. Say a chil"
Monday, April 24, 2006
Foreverhealthy - Articles
Foreverhealthy - Articles: "THE POWER OF �LIVING� WATER
by Wayne Gendel May 2003
LONGEVITY Is Associated with Drinking Mineralized Oxygen Rich Natural Pure �Living� Water!
But!
Premature Aging Comes From Drinking Distilled &/Or Non Filtered & Polluted Dead Waters!
Like a perfectly ripe piece of fruit, a good glass of water is pure, clean and alive! It is refreshing and satisfying. Drinking water is 1 of the 3 most important things we do every day! The other two are eating and sleeping! Interesting how most of us spend very little time understanding and learning about water! Even less than healthy eating or sleeping, and not that most have much knowledge in those areas! Hopefully one day schools and more people will understand the importance and power of water in its effects on our health. Most people will take weeks researching stereos or cell phones! And yet water effects our health more than virtually anything else we do on a daily basis!
Let�s find out how to drink the water of the longest lived healthiest people on the planet!
First let�s understand what NOT to drink! PLEASE do NOT drink plain Distilled, Reverse Osmosis (R.O) or unfiltered tap or most spring waters on a daily basis! They are DEAD waters! Of course the occasional glass is fine. I hope you agree that drinking unfiltered tap water could be hazardous to your health because of parasites, chlorine, fluoride, dioxins, heavy metals and a host of dangerous chemicals! Would you let a baby drink tap water? There are now over 75,000 chemicals on record produced in the world! Many can and do get in the water supply. Most of these chemicals can cause bladder and kidney cancers as well as nervous system damage. (11)
Many mimic our estrogen and are commonly referred to as xeno-estrogens. Excess estrogen is associated with "
by Wayne Gendel May 2003
LONGEVITY Is Associated with Drinking Mineralized Oxygen Rich Natural Pure �Living� Water!
But!
Premature Aging Comes From Drinking Distilled &/Or Non Filtered & Polluted Dead Waters!
Like a perfectly ripe piece of fruit, a good glass of water is pure, clean and alive! It is refreshing and satisfying. Drinking water is 1 of the 3 most important things we do every day! The other two are eating and sleeping! Interesting how most of us spend very little time understanding and learning about water! Even less than healthy eating or sleeping, and not that most have much knowledge in those areas! Hopefully one day schools and more people will understand the importance and power of water in its effects on our health. Most people will take weeks researching stereos or cell phones! And yet water effects our health more than virtually anything else we do on a daily basis!
Let�s find out how to drink the water of the longest lived healthiest people on the planet!
First let�s understand what NOT to drink! PLEASE do NOT drink plain Distilled, Reverse Osmosis (R.O) or unfiltered tap or most spring waters on a daily basis! They are DEAD waters! Of course the occasional glass is fine. I hope you agree that drinking unfiltered tap water could be hazardous to your health because of parasites, chlorine, fluoride, dioxins, heavy metals and a host of dangerous chemicals! Would you let a baby drink tap water? There are now over 75,000 chemicals on record produced in the world! Many can and do get in the water supply. Most of these chemicals can cause bladder and kidney cancers as well as nervous system damage. (11)
Many mimic our estrogen and are commonly referred to as xeno-estrogens. Excess estrogen is associated with "
Wednesday, April 12, 2006
Tanning high?
Tanning is a drug.
Well...sort of. According to recent research, people who tan themselves more than twice each week may be addicted to endorphins created in skin cells exposed to sunlight. Endorphins are opioid compounds that provide a mental boost and a feeling of wellbeing. Heroin and morphine are opioids, and just like these drugs, tanning can be addicting.
This theory was put to a test in a recent trial conducted by researchers at Wake Forest University Baptist Medical Center. Sixteen subjects were recruited: eight infrequent tanners, and eight frequent tanners. "Frequent" was defined as eight to fifteen tanning sessions per month.
Each subject was given 5 mg of naltrexone; a drug that blocks the effects of opioids by competing for opioid receptors in the brain. Naltrexone is used to treat opioid dependence and alcoholism.
Researchers steadily upped the naltrexone dosage until all subjects were receiving 15 mg. At that point, four of the frequent tanners displayed typical withdrawal symptoms such as jitteriness and nausea. Two of the four had to drop out of the study. Presumably they stripped to their skivvies and made a beeline for the beach.
None of the infrequent tanners had withdrawal symptoms.
On the upside, it's a good bet that all of these subjects have impressive vitamin D levels. The downside, of course, is a sharply increased risk of skin cancer. Richard Wagner, Jr., M.D. (who was not involved in the Wake Forest research), told WebMD Medical News that frequent tanning is a type of substance abuse so powerful that some skin cancer patients can't stop tanning, even though they're aware of the damage they're doing to themselves.
Most tanners, however, are probably not aware that they may be skin cancer patients in the making. As part of his research, Dr. Wagner took a trip to a beach where he used addiction questionnaires to survey a number of tanners at random. He told WebMD that about half the respondents had tanning habits that qualified as a substance-related disorder.
Well...sort of. According to recent research, people who tan themselves more than twice each week may be addicted to endorphins created in skin cells exposed to sunlight. Endorphins are opioid compounds that provide a mental boost and a feeling of wellbeing. Heroin and morphine are opioids, and just like these drugs, tanning can be addicting.
This theory was put to a test in a recent trial conducted by researchers at Wake Forest University Baptist Medical Center. Sixteen subjects were recruited: eight infrequent tanners, and eight frequent tanners. "Frequent" was defined as eight to fifteen tanning sessions per month.
Each subject was given 5 mg of naltrexone; a drug that blocks the effects of opioids by competing for opioid receptors in the brain. Naltrexone is used to treat opioid dependence and alcoholism.
Researchers steadily upped the naltrexone dosage until all subjects were receiving 15 mg. At that point, four of the frequent tanners displayed typical withdrawal symptoms such as jitteriness and nausea. Two of the four had to drop out of the study. Presumably they stripped to their skivvies and made a beeline for the beach.
None of the infrequent tanners had withdrawal symptoms.
On the upside, it's a good bet that all of these subjects have impressive vitamin D levels. The downside, of course, is a sharply increased risk of skin cancer. Richard Wagner, Jr., M.D. (who was not involved in the Wake Forest research), told WebMD Medical News that frequent tanning is a type of substance abuse so powerful that some skin cancer patients can't stop tanning, even though they're aware of the damage they're doing to themselves.
Most tanners, however, are probably not aware that they may be skin cancer patients in the making. As part of his research, Dr. Wagner took a trip to a beach where he used addiction questionnaires to survey a number of tanners at random. He told WebMD that about half the respondents had tanning habits that qualified as a substance-related disorder.
Sunday, April 09, 2006
Running on high octane or burning out big time?
Running on high octane or burning out big time?: "GETTING THE LEAST FROM YOUR STAFF
- Impose unreasonable demands.
- Refuse to give employees reasonable discretion over work.
- Fail to credit or acknowledge contributions and achievements.
- Create a treadmill -- too much to do, all at once, all the time.
- Create perpetual doubt, leaving workers unsure about future.
- Allow office politics to disrupt positive behaviour.
- Tolerate or foster unclear direction and job ambiguity.
- Reject, out of hand, employee workload concerns.
- Remember -- performance reviews (even positive ones) don't establish workers' role in the company's future. -- Global Business and Economic Roundtable on Addiction and Mental Health"
- Impose unreasonable demands.
- Refuse to give employees reasonable discretion over work.
- Fail to credit or acknowledge contributions and achievements.
- Create a treadmill -- too much to do, all at once, all the time.
- Create perpetual doubt, leaving workers unsure about future.
- Allow office politics to disrupt positive behaviour.
- Tolerate or foster unclear direction and job ambiguity.
- Reject, out of hand, employee workload concerns.
- Remember -- performance reviews (even positive ones) don't establish workers' role in the company's future. -- Global Business and Economic Roundtable on Addiction and Mental Health"
Wednesday, March 22, 2006
Men are Like ....
Men are like....
1. Men are like .....Laxatives .... They irritate the shit out of you.
2. Men are like ...... Bananas .... The older they get, the less firm they are.
3. Men are like ..... Weather ..... Nothing can be done to change them.
4. Men are like ........ Blenders ..... You need One, but you're not quite sure why.
5. Men are like ....... Chocolate Bars .... Sweet, smooth, & they usually head right for your hips.
6.Men are like ....... Commercials ..... You can't believe a word they say.
7. Men are like ........ Department Stores ..... Their clothes are always 1/2 off.
8. Men are like ........ Government Bonds ..... They take soooooooo long to mature.
9. Men are like ....... Mascara ...... They usually run at the first sign of emotion.
10. Men are like .... Popcorn . ...They satisfy you, but only for a little while.
11. Men are like ..... Snowstorms ...... You never know when they're coming, how many inches you'll get or how long it will last.
12. Men are like ..... Lava Lamps ..... Fun to look at, but not very bright.
13. Men are like ..... Parking Spots .....All the good ones are taken, the rest are handicapped.
1. Men are like .....Laxatives .... They irritate the shit out of you.
2. Men are like ...... Bananas .... The older they get, the less firm they are.
3. Men are like ..... Weather ..... Nothing can be done to change them.
4. Men are like ........ Blenders ..... You need One, but you're not quite sure why.
5. Men are like ....... Chocolate Bars .... Sweet, smooth, & they usually head right for your hips.
6.Men are like ....... Commercials ..... You can't believe a word they say.
7. Men are like ........ Department Stores ..... Their clothes are always 1/2 off.
8. Men are like ........ Government Bonds ..... They take soooooooo long to mature.
9. Men are like ....... Mascara ...... They usually run at the first sign of emotion.
10. Men are like .... Popcorn . ...They satisfy you, but only for a little while.
11. Men are like ..... Snowstorms ...... You never know when they're coming, how many inches you'll get or how long it will last.
12. Men are like ..... Lava Lamps ..... Fun to look at, but not very bright.
13. Men are like ..... Parking Spots .....All the good ones are taken, the rest are handicapped.
Thursday, March 16, 2006
Make you luck
Yahoo! Mail - respondfeedbacknow@yahoo.ca: "Clever Ways to Create Your Own Luck
Susan RoAne
y first book, How to Work a Room, was rejected by more than 20 publishers. Then a friend suggested that I attend the American Library Association's convention. I had the flu that day and didn't want to go. I went anyway -- and wound up meeting the publisher who said yes to my book. It went on to sell well over a million copies.
Was I lucky? Yes -- but only because I took an active step toward good fortune, rather than waiting for fortune to find me.
Lucky people always are on the lookout for 'you never know' moments, chance encounters that open doors to all sorts of possibilities. Here's how to find and maximize those opportunities...
Talk to strangers. It's the people you don't know who bring new opportunities to your doorstep. Example: A couple went to the opera and started a conversation with the couple seated next to them. During intermission, the second couple decided to leave early -- and asked the first couple if they would like to have their tickets to the postopera gala ball. It never would have happened without the chitchat. Helpful...
Focus on what you have in common. When you're in the same place with a stranger -- a charity fundraiser, for example, or your child's school -- you have something in common just by being there. It gives you something to talk about.
Wear something that invites people to talk to you. Madeleine Albright, the former US ambassador to the United Nations, often wore a large brooch because it was a conversation starter. Men can wear ties that reflect their interests, such as one from an art museum or a boater's club.
Smile and say hello. Make eye contact. Show that you're approachable, even if you'"
Susan RoAne
y first book, How to Work a Room, was rejected by more than 20 publishers. Then a friend suggested that I attend the American Library Association's convention. I had the flu that day and didn't want to go. I went anyway -- and wound up meeting the publisher who said yes to my book. It went on to sell well over a million copies.
Was I lucky? Yes -- but only because I took an active step toward good fortune, rather than waiting for fortune to find me.
Lucky people always are on the lookout for 'you never know' moments, chance encounters that open doors to all sorts of possibilities. Here's how to find and maximize those opportunities...
Talk to strangers. It's the people you don't know who bring new opportunities to your doorstep. Example: A couple went to the opera and started a conversation with the couple seated next to them. During intermission, the second couple decided to leave early -- and asked the first couple if they would like to have their tickets to the postopera gala ball. It never would have happened without the chitchat. Helpful...
Focus on what you have in common. When you're in the same place with a stranger -- a charity fundraiser, for example, or your child's school -- you have something in common just by being there. It gives you something to talk about.
Wear something that invites people to talk to you. Madeleine Albright, the former US ambassador to the United Nations, often wore a large brooch because it was a conversation starter. Men can wear ties that reflect their interests, such as one from an art museum or a boater's club.
Smile and say hello. Make eye contact. Show that you're approachable, even if you'"
Erasing tatoo regret - with lazers
"Erasing tattoo regret"
Clinics remove tatoos with lazer surgery - some costs covered by Health care. Interesting opportunity -minor surgery
Clinics remove tatoos with lazer surgery - some costs covered by Health care. Interesting opportunity -minor surgery
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