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It happens to everyone -losing control is not a good think

I lost control and, in all probability, I lost any opportunity to ever have a positive influence on the person who called, the young man who was serving our group and anyone who happened to see me lose my cool. You need to understand that when you lose control, you impact a lot more people than just the individual who is directly involved. Because people look to teachers for direction and leadership, they hold them to higher standards. Which is why I have to confess that I am terribly embarrassed as I reflect on the whole incident. I still have plenty to learn and more than enough opportunities to practice what I love to teach. Respond instead of react, and you -- and everyone around you -- will have something to smile about if you do.

How to Get Back to Work After YEARS of Downtime « Vault's Careers Blog

How to Get Back to Work After YEARS of Downtime « Vault's Careers Blog


Don’t be afraid to volunteer or take on contract work while you look for something more permanent. Unpaid or part-time work can help you build a network and maybe even do something worthwhile. (“For years, I had resisted signing up and volunteering somewhere because lack of salary means lack of prestige,” Beckett said. “In this case, I feel it’s an investment, and it’s a project that I identify with. I love to pull weeds and be in the dirt and be in gardens. This may point me in a good direction.”) Beckett eventually obtained an interview at the employment law firm where she was offered a job because of contract work she’d done for one of the firm’s tenants.

Expect to have bad days. Notwithstanding self-boosting daily affirmations (“I keep thinking, ‘I’m an appealing person, I’m smart, I’m good to talk to, I would be good at this!’”), you’re going to get rejected, feel discouraged and lose confidence (“I’ve failed at everything I tried. I failed at my first job here. I got fired and was told I was incompetent. I’m hanging onto the shreds of my professional identity with this contract work, which is unsatisfying.”). The key is not to let it overwhelm you: “Tarbox [Beckett’s husband] had seen Beckett low before. ’Fortunately, she was dogged enough that she would pick herself off, dust herself off and try again,’ he said.”

In the end, Beckett’s air of confidence and self-assurance apparently “made a strong impression” on the hiring partners at Passman & Kaplan, as did her intelligent questions during the interview, and she was offered a position. As Suzanne Bianchi, a UCLA sociology professor, told the Post, “You’ve got to convince somebody to take a chance on you, and you have to have the self-confidence that you can do that.”
–Posted by Vera Djordjevich, Vault’s Law Blog

Brant-Knights of Columbus: Spring is in the air -and it is a time of renewal

Brant-Knights of Columbus: Spring is in the air -and it is a time of renewal

Happy ST Valentines day -no spam please

A day for romance-   a little background on this important day  
 
But there is no doubt that everyone celebrates  February 14th or Valentine's day.Many  exchange cards, candy, flowers, and gifts with their loved ones, all in the name of St. Valentine. The tradition of sending valentines is actually a very old one and I thought it would be entertaining to do a little research on this holiday that speaks to the heart. The oldest known valentine in existence today is a poem sent by Charles, Duke of Orleans, to his wife in 1415 while he was imprisoned in the Tower of London following his capture at the Battle of Agincourt. But the beginning of Valentine's Day goes even further back in history.


Pope Gelasius declared February 14th to be St. Valentine's Day around 498 A.D. And during the Middle Ages it was commonly believed in France and England that February 14 was the beginning of bird mating season, which added to the idea that the middle of February — Valentine's Day — should be a day for romance.

Friends , you might be surprised to know that we can't really verify for certain the real story behind St. Valentine's Day. According to one legend. Valentine was a priest who lived during the third century in Rome during the reign of Emperor Claudius II. Emperor Claudius decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, and as a result he outlawed marriage for young men. Realizing the injustice of the decree, Valentine defied Claudius and married young lovers in secret. When Valentine's clandestine actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death.

Other stories suggest that Valentine may have been killed for attempting to help Christians escape harsh Roman prisons where they were often beaten and tortured.

My favorite legend concerning Valentine is that he actually sent the first 'valentine' greeting himself, from prison. According to this story, Valentine fell in love with a young girl that may have been his jailor's daughter, who visited him during his confinement. Before his death, it is alleged that he wrote her a letter, which he signed 'From your Valentine,' an expression that is still in use today.

Friends , while the facts behind the legends of Valentine are far from clear, the stories certainly emphasize his appeal as a sympathetic, heroic, and, most importantly, romantic figure. It's no wonder that Valentine's Day caught on as a day of sharing love and romance. However you decide to spend this day, I hope that you are doing something that warms your heart. Happy Valentine's Day!

Does Haste make waste? mavbe

This is good advice

 

Hurry Hinders

"Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest."1

I recently read how "an ethics professor at Princeton Seminary asked for volunteers for an extra assignment. About half the class met him at the library to receive their assignments. The professor divided the students into three groups of five each.

"He gave the first group envelopes telling them to proceed immediately across campus to Stewart Hall. He told them that they had 15 minutes and if they didn't arrive on time, it would affect their grade. A minute or two later, he handed out envelopes to five others. They were also to go over to Stewart Hall, but they had 45 minutes. The third group had three hours to get to Stewart Hall.

"The students weren't aware of it, but the professor had arranged for three drama students to meet them along the way. Close to the beginning of their walk, one of the drama students had his hands on his head and was moaning aloud as if in great pain. About half way to Stewart Hall, on the steps of the chapel, the seminary students passed a man who was lying face down as if unconscious. Finally, on the steps of Stewart Hall, the third drama student was acting out a seizure.

"In the first group of students, those who had only 15 minutes to get across campus, no one stopped to help. In the second group, two students stopped to help. In the last group, the one that had three hours for their assignment, all of the students stopped to help at least one person. The professor had clearly shown these seminarians that hurry hinders ministry."2

Even when I was a student in college I had a quote taped to my desk which read, "Beware of the barrenness of a busy life." Of this I constantly need to remind myself as battling busyness for me is a constant challenge.

As another has said, "Come apart and rest awhile before you come apart."

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Hollecrest & Associates Inc   -"Turnaround Consultants" http://www.ic.gc.ca/ccc/search/cp?l=eng&e=123456239975 .


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Happy Valentine's advice

Habits of Happy Couples    Mark Goulston, MD

 Happy couples know that the real relationship begins when the honeymoon is over. Here are the habits of highly happy couples...

1. Go to bed at the same time. Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn't wait to go to bed with each other to make love? Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times even if one partner wakes up later to do things while his/her partner sleeps.

2. Cultivate common interests. Don't minimize the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. If you don't have common interests, develop them. At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own. This will make you more interesting to your mate and prevent you from appearing too dependent.

3. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode. When happy couples have a disagreement or an argument that they can't resolve, they default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.

4. Focus on accentuating the positive. If you look for things that your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he/she does right, you can always find something, too.

5. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after being apart for the day. Couples who say hello with a hug reaffirm their love for each other.

6. Say "I love you" and "Have a good day" every morning. This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other annoyances.

7. Say "good night" every night, regardless of how you feel. This tells your partner that regardless of how upset you are with him, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single upsetting incident.

8. Do a "weather" check during the day. Call your partner at home or at work to see how his day is going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you're more in sync later in the day. For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him to be enthusiastic about something good that happened to you.

9. Walk hand in hand. Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and often are in some kind of affectionate contact -- hand in hand or hand on shoulder, for example. They are saying that they belong with each other.

10. Stick with it. Even if these actions don't come naturally, happy couples stick with them until they do become a part of their relationship. It takes 30 days for a change in behavior to become a habit and a minimum of six months for a habit to become a way of life -- and love.

--
Hollecrest & Associates Inc   -"Turnaround Consultants"

http://www.ic.gc.ca/ccc/search/cp?l=eng&e=123456239975 .


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