Friday, February 15, 2008

no sex -we are too busy?

Surprising reasons you're not having sex
Story Highlights
Estimated 40 million in U.S. have "sexless marriage" (less than 10 times a year)
Medications can curb your libido; ask doctor about drugs' sexual side effects
Choose a nonsexual time to talk about it with your partner
By Leslie Goldman

Not getting any? You're not alone: Women today have less time for sex than their 1950s counterparts. And it's estimated that 40 million Americans have what experts call a sexless marriage (having sex less than 10 times a year).

Bringing too many distractions to bed can put a crimp in your sex life.

A regular sex life is good for your health. It can satisfy all sorts of emotional- and physical-intimacy needs and help partners stay close, says Anita H. Clayton, M.D., a professor of psychiatry at the University of Virginia and author of "Satisfaction: Women, Sex, and the Quest for Intimacy." So why the dry spell? You can chalk it up to a sheer lack of time, but there are a slew of other reasons, too -- from weight gain and perimenopause to technology overload (stop texting now) in the bedroom. Here's how to beat these sex busters.
Your bed isn't sexy anymore.