How did our community do survey ?
Do you remember how much has changed? What was the situation when you were born and before you made a difference?
Tuesday, November 30, 2010
New ways of helping your community
Make a difference challenge
How did our community do survey ?
Do you remember how much has changed? What was the situation when you were born and before you made a difference?
How did our community do survey ?
Do you remember how much has changed? What was the situation when you were born and before you made a difference?
Saturday, July 17, 2010
Gmail - Business Success for Friday July 16, 2010
It happens to everyone -losing control is not a good think
I lost control and, in all probability, I lost any opportunity to ever have a positive influence on the person who called, the young man who was serving our group and anyone who happened to see me lose my cool. You need to understand that when you lose control, you impact a lot more people than just the individual who is directly involved. Because people look to teachers for direction and leadership, they hold them to higher standards. Which is why I have to confess that I am terribly embarrassed as I reflect on the whole incident. I still have plenty to learn and more than enough opportunities to practice what I love to teach. Respond instead of react, and you -- and everyone around you -- will have something to smile about if you do.
I lost control and, in all probability, I lost any opportunity to ever have a positive influence on the person who called, the young man who was serving our group and anyone who happened to see me lose my cool. You need to understand that when you lose control, you impact a lot more people than just the individual who is directly involved. Because people look to teachers for direction and leadership, they hold them to higher standards. Which is why I have to confess that I am terribly embarrassed as I reflect on the whole incident. I still have plenty to learn and more than enough opportunities to practice what I love to teach. Respond instead of react, and you -- and everyone around you -- will have something to smile about if you do.
Thursday, April 08, 2010
How to Get Back to Work After YEARS of Downtime « Vault's Careers Blog
How to Get Back to Work After YEARS of Downtime « Vault's Careers Blog
Don’t be afraid to volunteer or take on contract work while you look for something more permanent. Unpaid or part-time work can help you build a network and maybe even do something worthwhile. (“For years, I had resisted signing up and volunteering somewhere because lack of salary means lack of prestige,” Beckett said. “In this case, I feel it’s an investment, and it’s a project that I identify with. I love to pull weeds and be in the dirt and be in gardens. This may point me in a good direction.”) Beckett eventually obtained an interview at the employment law firm where she was offered a job because of contract work she’d done for one of the firm’s tenants.
Expect to have bad days. Notwithstanding self-boosting daily affirmations (“I keep thinking, ‘I’m an appealing person, I’m smart, I’m good to talk to, I would be good at this!’”), you’re going to get rejected, feel discouraged and lose confidence (“I’ve failed at everything I tried. I failed at my first job here. I got fired and was told I was incompetent. I’m hanging onto the shreds of my professional identity with this contract work, which is unsatisfying.”). The key is not to let it overwhelm you: “Tarbox [Beckett’s husband] had seen Beckett low before. ’Fortunately, she was dogged enough that she would pick herself off, dust herself off and try again,’ he said.”
In the end, Beckett’s air of confidence and self-assurance apparently “made a strong impression” on the hiring partners at Passman & Kaplan, as did her intelligent questions during the interview, and she was offered a position. As Suzanne Bianchi, a UCLA sociology professor, told the Post, “You’ve got to convince somebody to take a chance on you, and you have to have the self-confidence that you can do that.”
–Posted by Vera Djordjevich, Vault’s Law Blog
Don’t be afraid to volunteer or take on contract work while you look for something more permanent. Unpaid or part-time work can help you build a network and maybe even do something worthwhile. (“For years, I had resisted signing up and volunteering somewhere because lack of salary means lack of prestige,” Beckett said. “In this case, I feel it’s an investment, and it’s a project that I identify with. I love to pull weeds and be in the dirt and be in gardens. This may point me in a good direction.”) Beckett eventually obtained an interview at the employment law firm where she was offered a job because of contract work she’d done for one of the firm’s tenants.
Expect to have bad days. Notwithstanding self-boosting daily affirmations (“I keep thinking, ‘I’m an appealing person, I’m smart, I’m good to talk to, I would be good at this!’”), you’re going to get rejected, feel discouraged and lose confidence (“I’ve failed at everything I tried. I failed at my first job here. I got fired and was told I was incompetent. I’m hanging onto the shreds of my professional identity with this contract work, which is unsatisfying.”). The key is not to let it overwhelm you: “Tarbox [Beckett’s husband] had seen Beckett low before. ’Fortunately, she was dogged enough that she would pick herself off, dust herself off and try again,’ he said.”
In the end, Beckett’s air of confidence and self-assurance apparently “made a strong impression” on the hiring partners at Passman & Kaplan, as did her intelligent questions during the interview, and she was offered a position. As Suzanne Bianchi, a UCLA sociology professor, told the Post, “You’ve got to convince somebody to take a chance on you, and you have to have the self-confidence that you can do that.”
–Posted by Vera Djordjevich, Vault’s Law Blog
Monday, March 08, 2010
Monday, February 15, 2010
Happy ST Valentines day -no spam please
A day for romance- a little background on this important day
But there is no doubt that everyone celebrates February 14th or Valentine's day.Many exchange cards, candy, flowers, and gifts with their loved ones, all in the name of St. Valentine. The tradition of sending valentines is actually a very old one and I thought it would be entertaining to do a little research on this holiday that speaks to the heart. The oldest known valentine in existence today is a poem sent by Charles, Duke of Orleans, to his wife in 1415 while he was imprisoned in the Tower of London following his capture at the Battle of Agincourt. But the beginning of Valentine's Day goes even further back in history.
Pope Gelasius declared February 14th to be St. Valentine's Day around 498 A.D. And during the Middle Ages it was commonly believed in France and England that February 14 was the beginning of bird mating season, which added to the idea that the middle of February — Valentine's Day — should be a day for romance.
Friends , you might be surprised to know that we can't really verify for certain the real story behind St. Valentine's Day. According to one legend. Valentine was a priest who lived during the third century in Rome during the reign of Emperor Claudius II. Emperor Claudius decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, and as a result he outlawed marriage for young men. Realizing the injustice of the decree, Valentine defied Claudius and married young lovers in secret. When Valentine's clandestine actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death.
Other stories suggest that Valentine may have been killed for attempting to help Christians escape harsh Roman prisons where they were often beaten and tortured.
My favorite legend concerning Valentine is that he actually sent the first 'valentine' greeting himself, from prison. According to this story, Valentine fell in love with a young girl that may have been his jailor's daughter, who visited him during his confinement. Before his death, it is alleged that he wrote her a letter, which he signed 'From your Valentine,' an expression that is still in use today.
Friends , while the facts behind the legends of Valentine are far from clear, the stories certainly emphasize his appeal as a sympathetic, heroic, and, most importantly, romantic figure. It's no wonder that Valentine's Day caught on as a day of sharing love and romance. However you decide to spend this day, I hope that you are doing something that warms your heart. Happy Valentine's Day!
But there is no doubt that everyone celebrates February 14th or Valentine's day.Many exchange cards, candy, flowers, and gifts with their loved ones, all in the name of St. Valentine. The tradition of sending valentines is actually a very old one and I thought it would be entertaining to do a little research on this holiday that speaks to the heart. The oldest known valentine in existence today is a poem sent by Charles, Duke of Orleans, to his wife in 1415 while he was imprisoned in the Tower of London following his capture at the Battle of Agincourt. But the beginning of Valentine's Day goes even further back in history.
Pope Gelasius declared February 14th to be St. Valentine's Day around 498 A.D. And during the Middle Ages it was commonly believed in France and England that February 14 was the beginning of bird mating season, which added to the idea that the middle of February — Valentine's Day — should be a day for romance.
Friends , you might be surprised to know that we can't really verify for certain the real story behind St. Valentine's Day. According to one legend. Valentine was a priest who lived during the third century in Rome during the reign of Emperor Claudius II. Emperor Claudius decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, and as a result he outlawed marriage for young men. Realizing the injustice of the decree, Valentine defied Claudius and married young lovers in secret. When Valentine's clandestine actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death.
Other stories suggest that Valentine may have been killed for attempting to help Christians escape harsh Roman prisons where they were often beaten and tortured.
My favorite legend concerning Valentine is that he actually sent the first 'valentine' greeting himself, from prison. According to this story, Valentine fell in love with a young girl that may have been his jailor's daughter, who visited him during his confinement. Before his death, it is alleged that he wrote her a letter, which he signed 'From your Valentine,' an expression that is still in use today.
Friends , while the facts behind the legends of Valentine are far from clear, the stories certainly emphasize his appeal as a sympathetic, heroic, and, most importantly, romantic figure. It's no wonder that Valentine's Day caught on as a day of sharing love and romance. However you decide to spend this day, I hope that you are doing something that warms your heart. Happy Valentine's Day!
Friday, February 12, 2010
Does Haste make waste? mavbe
This is good advice
Hurry Hinders
"Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest."1
I recently read how "an ethics professor at Princeton Seminary asked for volunteers for an extra assignment. About half the class met him at the library to receive their assignments. The professor divided the students into three groups of five each.
"He gave the first group envelopes telling them to proceed immediately across campus to Stewart Hall. He told them that they had 15 minutes and if they didn't arrive on time, it would affect their grade. A minute or two later, he handed out envelopes to five others. They were also to go over to Stewart Hall, but they had 45 minutes. The third group had three hours to get to Stewart Hall.
"The students weren't aware of it, but the professor had arranged for three drama students to meet them along the way. Close to the beginning of their walk, one of the drama students had his hands on his head and was moaning aloud as if in great pain. About half way to Stewart Hall, on the steps of the chapel, the seminary students passed a man who was lying face down as if unconscious. Finally, on the steps of Stewart Hall, the third drama student was acting out a seizure.
"In the first group of students, those who had only 15 minutes to get across campus, no one stopped to help. In the second group, two students stopped to help. In the last group, the one that had three hours for their assignment, all of the students stopped to help at least one person. The professor had clearly shown these seminarians that hurry hinders ministry."2
Even when I was a student in college I had a quote taped to my desk which read, "Beware of the barrenness of a busy life." Of this I constantly need to remind myself as battling busyness for me is a constant challenge.
As another has said, "Come apart and rest awhile before you come apart."
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Wednesday, February 10, 2010
Happy Valentine's advice
Habits of Happy Couples Mark Goulston, MD
Happy couples know that the real relationship begins when the honeymoon is over. Here are the habits of highly happy couples...
1. Go to bed at the same time. Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn't wait to go to bed with each other to make love? Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times even if one partner wakes up later to do things while his/her partner sleeps.
2. Cultivate common interests. Don't minimize the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. If you don't have common interests, develop them. At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own. This will make you more interesting to your mate and prevent you from appearing too dependent.
3. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode. When happy couples have a disagreement or an argument that they can't resolve, they default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.
4. Focus on accentuating the positive. If you look for things that your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he/she does right, you can always find something, too.
5. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after being apart for the day. Couples who say hello with a hug reaffirm their love for each other.
6. Say "I love you" and "Have a good day" every morning. This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other annoyances.
7. Say "good night" every night, regardless of how you feel. This tells your partner that regardless of how upset you are with him, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single upsetting incident.
8. Do a "weather" check during the day. Call your partner at home or at work to see how his day is going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you're more in sync later in the day. For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him to be enthusiastic about something good that happened to you.
9. Walk hand in hand. Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and often are in some kind of affectionate contact -- hand in hand or hand on shoulder, for example. They are saying that they belong with each other.
10. Stick with it. Even if these actions don't come naturally, happy couples stick with them until they do become a part of their relationship. It takes 30 days for a change in behavior to become a habit and a minimum of six months for a habit to become a way of life -- and love.
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"Building elder peer communities that are cozy,caring and comfortable" -quality 24/7 care
Tuesday, February 09, 2010
Put a smile on your face
How many of these can you smile about ?
Murphy's Real Laws, Part I
1. Everyone has a photographic memory. Some don't have film.
2. He who laughs last, thinks slowest.
3. A day without sunshine is like, well, night.
4. Change is inevitable, except from a vending machine.
5. Back up my hard drive? How do I put it in reverse?
6.I just got lost in thought. It was unfamiliar territory.
7. When the chips are down, the buffalo is empty.
8. Seen it all, done it all. Can't remember most of it.
9. Those who live by the sword get shot by those who don't.
10. I feel like I'm diagonally parked in a parallel universe.
11. He's not dead. He's electroencephalographically challenged.
12. She's always late. In fact, her ancestors arrived on the "Juneflower."
13. You have the right to remain silent. Anything you say will be misquoted and used against you.
14. I wonder how much deeper the ocean would be without sponges.
15. Honk if you love peace and quiet.
16. Pardon my driving, I'm reloading.
17. Despite the cost of living, have you noticed how it remains so popular?
Murphy's Real Laws, Part II
18. Nothing is foolproof to a sufficiently talented fool.
19. It is hard to understand how a cemetery can raise its burial costs and blame it on the higher cost of living.
20. Just remember if it wasn't for gravity, we'd all fall off.
21. The 50-50-90 rule: Anytime you have a 50-50 chance of getting something right, there's a 90% probability you'll get it wrong.
22. It is said that if you line up all the cars in the world end to end, someone would be stupid enough to try and pass them.
23. You can't have everything. Where would you put it?
24. Latest survey shows that 3 out of 4 people make up 75% of the world population.
25. If the shoe fits, get another one just like it.
26. The things that come to those that wait may be the things left by those who got there first.
27. Give a man a fish and he will eat for a day. Teach a man to fish and he will sit in a boat all day drinking.
28. Flashlight: A case for holding dead batteries.
29. The shin bone is a device for finding furniture.
30. A fine is a tax for doing wrong. A tax is a fine for doing well.
31. It was recently discovered that research causes cancer in rats.
32. Everybody lies, but it doesn't matter since nobody listens.
33.I wished the buck stopped here, as I could use a few.
34. I started out with nothing, and I still have most of it.
35. When you go into court, you are putting yourself in the hands of 12 people who weren't smart enough to get out of jury duty.
36. Light travels faster than sound. This is why some people appear bright until you hear them speak.
19. It is hard to understand how a cemetery can raise its burial costs and blame it on the higher cost of living.
20. Just remember if it wasn't for gravity, we'd all fall off.
21. The 50-50-90 rule: Anytime you have a 50-50 chance of getting something right, there's a 90% probability you'll get it wrong.
22. It is said that if you line up all the cars in the world end to end, someone would be stupid enough to try and pass them.
23. You can't have everything. Where would you put it?
24. Latest survey shows that 3 out of 4 people make up 75% of the world population.
25. If the shoe fits, get another one just like it.
26. The things that come to those that wait may be the things left by those who got there first.
27. Give a man a fish and he will eat for a day. Teach a man to fish and he will sit in a boat all day drinking.
28. Flashlight: A case for holding dead batteries.
29. The shin bone is a device for finding furniture.
30. A fine is a tax for doing wrong. A tax is a fine for doing well.
31. It was recently discovered that research causes cancer in rats.
32. Everybody lies, but it doesn't matter since nobody listens.
33.I wished the buck stopped here, as I could use a few.
34. I started out with nothing, and I still have most of it.
35. When you go into court, you are putting yourself in the hands of 12 people who weren't smart enough to get out of jury duty.
36. Light travels faster than sound. This is why some people appear bright until you hear them speak.
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Monday, February 08, 2010
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Sunday, February 07, 2010
Keep it simple and enjoy life
Livin' Can Be Easy - 10 Simple Steps to Live Simply
Like most of us these days, it seems to be more and more difficult to take time out to smell the roses along the way. The days are so full, it's hard enough to manage the things we have to do, let alone find time for ourselves.
Here are a few tips that may help simplify things a bit for you:
1. Cease the clutter - Having too much stuff requires energy and time to maintain and can be a huge drain on your energy level. Consider letting go of the items either by donating, discarding or selling.
2. Say goodbye to catalogs - Do you really need all those catalogs coming in? Tear off your mailing label, attach to an index card and write, "please remove me from your list" and mail to catalog holders.
3. Eliminate junk mail - Request to be "removed" from any list by writing your name and address and sending to: Mail Preference Service, DMA, PO Box 9008, Farmingdale, NY 11735-9008
4. Stop credit card offers - Call Trans Union at (888) 567-8688. Opt out for two years, or permanently. Since they share information with Experian and Equifax, you do not have to duplicate your request.
5. Automatic billing - Notify your individual creditors or go directly to your banking institution to set up automatic withdrawals monthly.
6. Consolidate debt - Devise a plan to attach that debt! Consolidate all your credit cards to make one payment. Come up with a budget. Talk to a financial advisor. Take the steps necessary to face your debt head on - it's a huge stress factor and emotional drain, but once addressed, you will start to feel better.
7. Prioritize projects - Make a list of what needs to be done first and the time frames for completion. Conquer the little ones first so you can begin to reap the rewards of satisfaction to keep you motivated. Remember, baby steps first!
8. Reduce information overload - What magazine and newspaper subscription can you cut back on? Give your brain a break. Consider cutting down and focusing on just what you need to find out - this pertains to Web surfing, as well.
9. Be spontaneous - Being spontaneous once in a while can be a good thing. Releasing a little control can energize you and raise your spirits. It's a great way to break the everyday routine and add a little fun into your life again.
10. Find peace - Having a place to go to for your down time is important. Find a spot that you feel at peace and can relate to as your own private sanctuary., Mediate, have a cup of tea or simply do nothing. Just relax.
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Patricia Diesel, author of "A Simple Guide to an Organized Life" and founder of Keep It
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Here are a few tips that may help simplify things a bit for you:
1. Cease the clutter - Having too much stuff requires energy and time to maintain and can be a huge drain on your energy level. Consider letting go of the items either by donating, discarding or selling.
2. Say goodbye to catalogs - Do you really need all those catalogs coming in? Tear off your mailing label, attach to an index card and write, "please remove me from your list" and mail to catalog holders.
3. Eliminate junk mail - Request to be "removed" from any list by writing your name and address and sending to: Mail Preference Service, DMA, PO Box 9008, Farmingdale, NY 11735-9008
4. Stop credit card offers - Call Trans Union at (888) 567-8688. Opt out for two years, or permanently. Since they share information with Experian and Equifax, you do not have to duplicate your request.
5. Automatic billing - Notify your individual creditors or go directly to your banking institution to set up automatic withdrawals monthly.
6. Consolidate debt - Devise a plan to attach that debt! Consolidate all your credit cards to make one payment. Come up with a budget. Talk to a financial advisor. Take the steps necessary to face your debt head on - it's a huge stress factor and emotional drain, but once addressed, you will start to feel better.
7. Prioritize projects - Make a list of what needs to be done first and the time frames for completion. Conquer the little ones first so you can begin to reap the rewards of satisfaction to keep you motivated. Remember, baby steps first!
8. Reduce information overload - What magazine and newspaper subscription can you cut back on? Give your brain a break. Consider cutting down and focusing on just what you need to find out - this pertains to Web surfing, as well.
9. Be spontaneous - Being spontaneous once in a while can be a good thing. Releasing a little control can energize you and raise your spirits. It's a great way to break the everyday routine and add a little fun into your life again.
10. Find peace - Having a place to go to for your down time is important. Find a spot that you feel at peace and can relate to as your own private sanctuary., Mediate, have a cup of tea or simply do nothing. Just relax.
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Patricia Diesel, author of "A Simple Guide to an Organized Life" and founder of Keep It
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Friday, February 05, 2010
10 Commandments of Marriage - remember it is all about the truth and the consequences
Smile -take a deep breath -and remember that every day is a gift
10 Commandments of Marriage - remember it is all about truth and consequences
Commandment 1.
Marriages are made in heaven. But so again, are thunder and lightning.
Commandment 2.
If you want your spouse to listen and pay strict attention to every word you say, talk in your sleep.
Commandment 3.
Marriage is grand -- and divorce is at least 100 grand!
Commandment 4.
Married life is very frustrating. In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens. In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens. In the third year, they both speak and the neighbors listen.
Commandment 5.
When a man opens the door of his car for his wife, you can be sure of one thing: Either the car is new or the wife is.
Commandment 6.
Marriage is when a man and woman become as one; the trouble starts when they try to decide which one.
Commandment 7.
Before marriage, a man will lie awake all night thinking about something you said. After marriage, he will fall asleep before you finish talking.
Commandment 8.
Every man wants a wife who is beautiful, understanding, economical, and a good cook. But the law allows only one wife.
Commandment 9.
Every woman wants a man who is handsome, understanding, economical and a considerate lover, but again, the law allows only one husband.
Commandment 10.
Man is incomplete until he marries. After that, he is finished.
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Friday, January 29, 2010
stress into useful energy
Turning Stress Into Success
"Don't worry about anything, instead, pray about everything; tell God your needs and don't forget to thank him for his answers. If you do this you will experience God's peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand."1
In continuing our two-part series on handling stress remember also what René Dubos said, "What happens in the mind of man is always reflected in the disease of his body."
The first four steps for turning stress into success are: (1) Realize that some stress is helpful; (2) Be aware that stress is only troublesome when it continues for too long or if there is too much of it; (3) Recognize symptoms as early as possible; and (4) Identify causes. The fifth step in turning stress into success is: Seek a practical cure.
1. The starting point to turn stress into success is to lessen your load. Eighty percent of the cure can come out of writing down all your cares and responsibilities in order of priority, then eliminating the least important.
2. Remember that Superman and Superwoman exist only in comics and films. Everybody has a breaking point, so recognize yours and call a halt before you reach your limit.
3. With stress comes pent-up feelings. Get them "off your chest" by sharing them with a trusted friend or counselor. This of itself can bring immediate relief and helps you to think and plan more objectively.
4. Stop fighting situations that can't be changed. As one father told his impatient teenager, "If you would only realize and accept the fact that life is a struggle, things would be so much easier for you." Learning to live with and get on top of struggles is what helps us grow and mature.
5. Try to avoid making too many major life changes during the course of a single year.
6. If you hold resentment towards another person, resolve your differences right away. Never "let the sun go down while you are still angry."2
7. Make time for rest and relaxation. Learn to "come apart and rest a while before you come apart."
8. Watch your diet and eating habits. When under stress we tend to overeat—especially junk food which increases stress. A balanced diet of proteins, vitamins, and fiber while also eliminating white sugar, caffeine, too much fat, alcohol and nicotine is essential for lowering stress and its effects.
9. Be sure to get plenty of physical exercise. This keeps you healthier and helps burn up excess adrenaline caused by stress and its accompanying anxiety.
10. The ultimate answer to turning stress into success is to learn to trust God and live in harmony with his will for your daily life. Read again the words in today's Bible verse above.
God's peace comes through accepting and trusting to God those circumstances that can't be changed, however difficult they may be. Perhaps this is what Christ meant when he spoke of taking up our cross daily and following him. Certainly he fully accepted his cross and trusted his situation to God and thereby was totally vindicated.
And so with us. If we take responsibility to do what we can to lessen our stress load and then, like Christ, take up our cross and daily commit and trust our life and way to God, we too will turn our stress into success, knowing that, in the words of the poet:
'Tis not the softer things of life
Which stimulate man's will to strive;
But bleak adversity and strife
Do most to keep man's will alive.
O'er rose-strewn paths the weaklings creep,
But brave hearts dare to climb the steep.3
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Tuesday, January 26, 2010
Good food for thought
Who's In Charge -- You or Your Technology?
Technology is magical and fantastic -- it takes us to places we'll
never go... allows us to reconnect with high school pals or say "I
love you" via text, e-mail, instant message (or all three)... and lets
us watch, again and again, the sweet moments of a child's first piano
recital... and, if you're so inclined, to share them with the world on
Facebook or YouTube.
However, technology also tends to take over our lives, says Daily
Health News contributor and life coach Lauren Zander, noting that all
these devices have complicated much about our lives -- even the
single, simple and supposedly mindless act of relaxing. Watching your
favorite sitcom on TV has turned into an exercise of "hit the mute
button during commercials and do e-mail or text on your laptop or
phone," points out Lauren. Technology blocks our ability to live the
good life by gulping up available time that could, and often should,
be spent on other more productive activities... and by putting up a
barrier that gets in the way of relationships and experiences that
could otherwise be more enriching. Lauren and I discussed how to turn
this around so that we all stay in charge of our technology... and not
the other way around.
Who Has "Free" Time?
Lauren points out that free time is precious, in that it offers a
special opportunity to follow pursuits that make life richer,
including personal exploration or development. But who has time for
these pursuits? "Most people would be embarrassed to admit how many
hours they waste on technology," she said, calling it the "ultimate
distraction" and a "thief of intimacy." The result is that people
often are too busy surfing the Web, returning e-mails and the like, to
be truly present in their relationships. The thriving Internet porn
industry provides an extreme example of how this is so. "The anonymous
nature of Internet porn allows people to let their dark side run
amok," says Lauren. "It is a way for people to think they are happy in
their virtual world and to numb themselves to the disappointments they
experience in their real relationships."
But even those whose online activities are aboveboard fall prey to the
seductive qualities of online communication and social media. Texting
and e-mailing can be easy, straightforward and incredibly efficient
ways to communicate -- but doing so habitually means you end up only
skimming the surface of a relationship. There's no nuance of gesture,
eye contact, tone of voice or physical connection to tell you how
someone really feels. You get only a piece of the interaction, and
it's often the least important part.
Technology also is seductive in how it makes us feel so important and
desired. Responding to the buzz of your cell phone or that ding
announcing that a text message has arrived is -- momentarily, at least
-- far more gratifying then listening to your elderly mother complain
about her sore hip. But, of course, your eager response to the
distraction leaves mom feeling left behind and unimportant.
Occasionally emergencies really do require your attention, but when
such interruptions become a pattern in a relationship, problems are
likely to arise.
Be Here Now
Technology also can rob you of the joy of full engagement. If you're
taking a video of your grandson's first at-bat of the season, your
experience of the moment is restricted to the viewfinder -- forever.
Yes, you capture the moment so that you can enjoy it again and again.
But you'll miss lots, too -- like how your own son is puffed up with
pride (or anxiety), not to mention actually witnessing the richness of
your grandson's performance and relishing your own good feelings about
it. Wouldn't it be better to hand the camera to someone else so that
you can be fully present for what's happening, creating your own
memories that will make the experience all the richer?
Putting the Leash on Technology
Far too many people have fallen into the habit of constantly accepting
the siren call of communication tools and technology. To keep that
from happening -- or to stop the habit if you are already addicted --
requires setting rules, says Lauren. This will "put a leash on the
problem so technology serves you without stealing all of your life."
She has several simple suggestions...
Assess exactly how much time you are devoting to technology and for
what purposes. What is necessary, satisfying and life-enhancing...
what is just killing time? What more rewarding activities could you be
doing with that time instead? Lauren admits that she recently realized
that she was no longer reading books -- just e-mails, reports and
other online content. "Reading feeds creativity and imagination and
I've always loved it, but I hadn't read a single book in two years!
The problem wasn't how busy my children keep me. It was that I had
turned my free time over to my laptop -- doing e-mails and surfing the
Internet," she says.
Be mindful of what's really happening. Remember that your life is not
a photo album or a movie -- those are mementos, not the point. If
you're spending time with your family, turn off the technology and
enjoy yourselves.
Set limits on how and when you use technology -- and respect those
limits. Lauren calls this an issue of integrity. Technology can become
an addiction that makes it easy to avoid thinking about real
challenges, such as a troubled relationship or an unhappy work
situation. It provides a reason to avoid time with the person or
problem that might resolve the issue.
To restore balance, you might decide family meals are sacrosanct (no
phone interruptions allowed)... or leave all laptops at home when you
go on vacation... or take no text messages except when you are at work
-- what, when and how much is up to you and your family. What's
important, however, is that you stick to the limits you set... because
you value your real life most of all.
Lauren reminds us that when it comes to technology, we need to
remember who's the boss. You don't work for it -- it works for you.
Use your gadgets with this in mind, and they will indeed be useful and
life-enhancing.
Source(s):
Lauren Zander, life coach and founder, The Handel Group, www.handelgroup.com.
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Hollecrest & Associates Inc -"Turnaround Consultants"
http://www.ic.gc.ca/ccc/search/cp?l=eng&e=123456239975 .
Back to Eden communities
Sunridge -261 Oakhill Drive, Brantford
backtoeden.ontario@gmail.com
www.backtoeden.bravehost.com
"Building elder peer communities that are cozy,caring and comfortable"
-quality 24/7 care
Saturday, January 23, 2010
beware of scams
Most Work-at-Home Job Offers Are Not What They Seem to Be
Audri Lanford, PhD
Internet ScamBusters
Would you like to earn lots of money in the comfort of your own home? Generate thousands in income in your spare time?
Ads offering work-at-home opportunities can be found everywhere, from Internet employment Web sites to neighborhood telephone poles. This might seem like the perfect solution for those who want to bring in some extra dollars. But, there's a catch -- most of these work-at-home "opportunities" are scams, cleverly designed to leave you with less money than when you began. Among the most common work-at-home scams...
Stuffing envelopes. Lure: Earn big bucks -- usually more than $1 per envelope -- for folding papers and sticking them into envelopes.
Trap: You will be asked to pay for your supplies or training. You'll typically receive only worthless instructions suggesting that you con others into applying for envelope-stuffing jobs.
Reality: Bulk mailers use machines to stuff envelopes.
Medical billing or insurance-claims processing. Lure: You can make big money processing medical paperwork.
Trap: You will be asked to pay hundreds of dollars for the software and training required.
Reality: The majority of medical offices process their own bills or outsource to large companies. Very few hire individuals.
Assembling crafts or sewing together clothing. Lure: Are you good with your hands? Then these companies claim to have a career for you. They will send you unassembled parts and instructions, and you assemble them and send them back.
Trap: The company will ask you to pay a deposit up front because it needs assurance that you will do the work and return the assembled goods. When you send in your completed products, most or all will be rejected as not meeting specifications, and the company will keep your deposit.
E-mail processing. Lure: Earn big bucks by receiving e-mail sent to the customer service Web sites of major companies, then forwarding these messages to the proper departments. For a fee, you can receive a list of companies anxious to hire you.
Trap: This list will be worthless, perhaps just companies pulled at random from the Yellow Pages.
Reality: Businesses usually do not hire individuals to work at home processing e-mail.
Payment processing for international companies. Lure: A company with clients around the globe needs a US representative to handle incoming checks. You will receive checks from overseas, deposit them in your account, take a small cut as your fee, then send your own check for the remainder to your foreign employer.
Trap: The checks you receive will bounce. By the time your bank informs you that there is a problem, the check you wrote will have cleared, and your "employer" will have disappeared.
Mystery shopping. Lure: Earn thousands of dollars by reporting on the quality of the service you receive in stores.
Trap: Anyone who says that you can earn high pay mystery shopping is a scammer. They might be trying to con you into paying for mystery shopping information that you could find on-line for free.
Reality: Legitimate mystery shopping assignments typically pay up to $10 an hour (in some cases, as high as $20 per hour), or perhaps you'll receive a free restaurant meal or a token amount of some merchandise. For information on legitimate mystery shopping opportunities, see the Idea Lady Web site (www.idealady.com/sb.html).
Variation: You are told that you are evaluating a financial company, such as a bank or money-forwarding service. You are then sent a large check and told to deposit this money in your own account, then wire some portion of the funds to the address provided. The check bounces, leaving you responsible for the money wired.
GENERIC SCAMS
Some work-at-home scams can be applied to virtually any work-at-home occupation. Be suspicious if you are told...
"We overpaid you with your first check. Please send the extra money back." Your new employer "accidentally" sent you more than you were owed and asks you to send back a check for the excess. Sometime after you send this check, your bank tells you that the original paycheck bounced. Your "job" was a ruse to get you to send the "overpayment" check.
"You got the job! We just need your Social Security number so we can pay you." It is perfectly reasonable for an employer to ask for a prospective employee's Social Security number. Scammers take advantage of this by posting legitimate-sounding job offers on career Web sites, then stealing applicants' identities. Do not provide your Social Security number until you have thoroughly researched the employer and are confident that the company and job opportunity are real.
SCAM AVOIDANCE
Job Web sites Elance (www.elance.com), Guru (www.guru.com) and RentACoder (www.rentacoder.com) offer legitimate work-at-home opportunities, but usually only for workers with specific skills, such as computer programming, Web design, writing, sales or engineering. (Use caution even on these Web sites -- there might be scams among the listings.) To avoid becoming a victim of work-at-home scams...
Ignore work-at-home job opportunities that arrive unsolicited via e-mail. Legitimate jobs are not advertised by spam.
Avoid offers that promise big profits without asking for specific skills or experience.
If someone trying to sell you on a business opportunity swears that there are dozens of potential clients in your region anxious to work with you, insist on speaking with at least two or three of them. If no names are forthcoming and/or these "prospects" don't confirm their interest, move on.
Be skeptical whenever money heads in the wrong direction. Legitimate employers pay employees -- they do not charge potential employees for training materials or interview fees. It is reasonable for a company to charge a fee if it is going to help set you up in your own independent business, but be cautious of these offers, too. Likewise, avoid any job that requires you to deposit checks or send checks from your own account.
Do a Web search to research any company. A legitimate company should have a professional-looking Web site (though this is no guarantee of legitimacy). You should be able to locate the company's phone number and address, not just a post office box. The company Web site should not be the only place that the company's name turns up on the Web. Skim the mentions of the company that your search uncovers. Do any of them say the company is a scam? Also, check with the Better Business Bureau (www.bbb.org).
Check the employer's e-mail address. Legitimate corporate e-mail addresses usually end with the company name, not the name of a free Web-based e-mail service.
Example: The e-mail address rwjohnson@xyxcorp.com is more likely to be legitimate than is rwjohnson18259@yahoo.net.
Consider how you would hire employees for this job, and how much you would pay, if you were the employer. If an offer made to you seems too good to be true, walk away.
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Hollecrest & Associates Inc -"Turnaround Consultants"
Back to Eden communities Sunridge -261 Oakhill Drive, Brantford backtoeden.ontario@gmail.com
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Friday, January 22, 2010
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Monday, January 18, 2010
[Update] How did Brantford Really do?
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Sunday, January 10, 2010
Guilt and greenmail form the good Doc
Greenies sic Fido in new guilt push
Do you love your pet? Of course you do.
So you might want to hide your pooch from the greenies, because now they want you to sacrifice your pet--in the name of the Earth.
An outrageous new book with the disgusting title, "Time to Eat the Dog: The Real Guide to Sustainable Living" attempts to make the weak case that a medium-sized dog does more damage to the planet than two SUVs, mostly because of all the land and energy it takes to make dog food.
But the eco-nuts don't really want you to ditch the dog and keep the SUV--they want you to shed both to live in their Luddite paradise.
The authors of this brainless book also accuse our beloved companions of attacking the local wildlife and polluting the planet with their poo. As if that's not a natural part of life for ANY animal, wild or domestic--including human beings.
But I do agree with them on one point: Store-bought dog food is wasteful--but not because it destroys the planet. It's expensive and unhealthy.
My beloved Weimaraner, Silky, eats raw chicken necks (with the skin on), fatty raw hamburger, raw eggs (including the shell) and a raw pork or beef joint two or three times a week. And you wouldn't believe how healthy my little darling is--all muscle, covered in the shiniest coat of fur you've ever seen.
If you want to give it a try, start by working these healthy raw meats into the supermarket dog food. Over time, use less kibble and more meat.
Just do it for your dog's health and not for some imaginary environmental impact. That's just a smokescreen for an extremist movement with a radical left-wing political agenda. They haven't gotten very far with science--so now they're trying guilt.
They want you to feel guilty about eating meat, guilty about driving to work, guilty about having a pet--guilty about living. Not long ago, one environmental space cadet even declared that the human race would need to become vegans to survive.
They come up with ridiculous concepts like "ecological footprint" or "carbon footprint"--call it what you want, there's no getting around the fact that it's simply been pulled out of thin air, manufactured to make you feel... you guessed it: Guilty!
Some of them even try to collect money off you based on the theoretical size of your nonexistent imaginary carbon footprint.
Forget blackmail--you can call this ploy greenmail.
And if you're sick of vegans claiming moral superiority, keep reading...
If meat is murder, then salad is slaughter
Vegans love to climb up on their organic soapboxes and claim the high ground... because no animals die for their food.
But is it any better to kill plants?
Heck no... botanists have always known that plants--like the rest of us--have instincts, behavior and a will to live too... and a recent article in the New York Times offers some real food for thought.
I'll bet the vegans will have a hard time digesting this one!
Plants communicate. When attacked, they'll even defend themselves. Not enough to stop the average vegetarian from crunching on them, but they're pretty good at turning away insects and other threats. For example, a plant being attacked by a caterpillar can send out a chemical signal that calls out to insects and parasites that eat caterpillars.
This is backed up by science--talk to some botanists. They'll tell you that plants can be ruthless competitors: They will move, shift and grow in ways to get the most sun for themselves while shading and even strangling others... and then suck up all the nutrients from the ground before neighboring plants can.
You could take all that and decide that we simply shouldn't eat anything... ever. Or you can be practical about it and realize that, as the dominant species on the planet, we humans can eat all the plants and animals we want.
To the victors go the spoils. For a few shining moments, that's us... but don't worry. The plants win--eventually, we all end up as fertilizer.
A carnivore with a clear conscience,
William Campbell Douglass II, M.D.
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"Making do , suffering fools is not good enough in 2010 "-- chuckle sieg
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